Hi again - I think it might all be simpler than I thought. So I've amended my settings. I might not see a message though until a lot later today. I tried adding you as a friend but it wasn't "seeing" any users with your profile name. So maybe your settings need amending too! Try adding me perhaps now that I've changed my settings. We'll get there in the end hopefully. Got to dash now  xx

Thank you x

Hi - I've sent you a friend request so check your pending requests. Once you've added me as a friend we should be able to exchange messages. Have quite a lot of work on (getting near the end of the month), but will try and check forum at least once later tonight. Hope you got through the afternoon ok. xx

Hello Deedee4321.  I just came across your post and was astounded how similar an event / ordeal you are going through and how comparable it was to what I have just been through.  After reading all your posts, I can say there is way to get through this.  I know, as I am here 4 weeks later after being a complete wreck, suffering from anxiety, lack of sleep - I would wake up at 3am and remain awake panicking and then feel awful in the day. Loss of appetite. Neglected my family. I live with my wife and 4 young children.  Lost interest in my hobbies such as cycling and running, and this lasted many weeks until I began to take steps to get myswlr

out of it , as it was not healthy for me, with regards to lack of sleep, not eating and my mental wellbeing plus the guilt of not giving the time to my wife or children and using work as a distraction.  Before I explain how I am here with no more anxiety after weeks of worry and fear I will share my asbestos exposures. I'm 37 and when I was around 10 I helped my dad demolish a large shed with asbestos roofing.  Literally smashed it to pieces and dust everywhere. That was 27 years ago and last year whilst training for a marathon had a health check which included a chest X-ray and blood tests and all MCA eback clear. They stated they looked at my heart and lungs and no traces of anything in the X-ray in my lungs, thank goodness. That was after days of smashing and bagging it all up with my dad.  Fast forward to age 32.  My wife and purchase a 60's home. I Removed asbestos vinyl tiles. Broke them swept them up unknowingly.  Drilled and sanded many walls, helped removed the old boiler and water tank which was asbestos coated. At the time didn't realise!! But however I spoke to my gp who also concurred with many of the posts in stating that even those multiple exposures where there was lost of dust and fibres flying around would not constitute high risk, or anything to be concerned about.  My GP stated that in her professional career she had never seen or heard of any patient coming down with anything asbestos related that had not worked with asbestos day in day out for their working lives falling ill.  Patients wpjld

consist of those lagging pipes 40 years ago, or electricians who would be cutting and drilling into it regularly with no masks on a day to day basis. It's these professions that are at risk due to the quantity constantly building up in their lungs.  I backed this data up by contacting many many asbestos specialists, and got so obsessive about it, that I contacted a leading expert in asbestos.  (I will happily share the information I received from them with you) putting together all the facts and expert help I received help my brain start to put things into perspective.  I know that's hard to do. Trust me. I have been there at the worst point where no info or advice would get through.  So things I did to overcome this asbestos fear. Firstly. Please please do not carry on googling.  This caused my anxiety to rocket each time I researched.  Honestly. If you need facts then only use NHS or the World health organisation.  Secondly. Try to get out the house for a walk or run or some form of exercise. Your body releases hormones that improve our moods after exercise. This was the GP's advice.  Also. Talk to others.  Don't bottle it up.  I can provide you a charity that will talk this out with you and assist calming your.  It worked for me. They will talk you through it all and discuss your concerns. Just doing this for me helped.  I combined all the above and here I am getting a full nights sleep. Eating again and somehow managing to now file this asbestos fear behind me.  I know my exposure was minimal and there is a lot of scaremongering on the web. You will likely find the scary sites are sponsored or affiliated with claims companies , solicitors or some form of body that simply wants to try and pursue a claim for asbestos related disease.  I have lost count of how many sites I visited, companies I called all of which was unescesary as it was simply making me ill.  It's hard to try and file it away but taking the steps I did will guide you through to some form of normality.  It's really important to stay clear from the web, as I know this was a major contributing factor towards my anxiety and the chest pains and sleepless nights.  I'm through it now and I understand how upset you are especially with a young child. My youngest is 4 and I worried so much, but now have our things into perspective and analysed it all, to now realise I was overthinking it all.  I too looked back on photos! This was as bad as googling.  If you can. Please try not to look back now on past pics. Each and everytime you do, you will be fuelling the anxiety.  I stopped and the anxiety passed.  I know this is a long post, but I wanted to reach out to you as I completely know what you are going through.  Each and every emotion, worry and fear , but I want to pass some positivety to you having been through it.  Thanks. Daniel 

Hello.  I will accept your friends request now.  I totally understand how you feel. Honestly I do. I didn't sleep for weeks and had night sweats and that feeling if it's all over etc but it isn't and you can pull through.  I did with no medications although my doctor offered me it. I kept getting that feeling of I will never know until the future, but I managed to break that mindset and I will help you do so too.  It can be done. Promise you it can. I will PM you in a bit with some info.  I hope it will help you.  
 

Daniel.  You will be okay with some support and I will always be here to listen and help having gone through what you have.  I know that feeling too well. The feeling of doom, and not having a definitive answer.  
 

don't panic. I will help and get you through this. :-) 

keep telling yourself like others have mentioned. Long term exposure is the major factor. I know you mentioned you think you had a high significant dose, but my research has indicated if it was very high concentration you would have seen symptoms rapidly, such as coughing and kiss of breath quite soon after which I presume you haven't.  Our lungs can handle flushing many nasties out, and I know asbestos it's one that can stick, but it requires substantial hammering to our lungs. I will send you some info I received from a leading senior Asbestos professor who kindly communicated with me as I was so worried and needed answers.  I have to go and sort the kids now but will message you soon. Sorry I can't do right now.  But wanted to quickly pop on here an say you are not alone and you will be okay.  :-) Daniel  

Thank you for your kind words.  I can't remember about coughing, as it was dusty throughout build. I have asthma ,so that doesn't help and makes me feel even more afraid. I am also scared to live in the house, thinking the slightest movement is causing asbestos to fall through the holes in ceiling. Just woke up with pain and dread again.

Hello Deedee, just wondering how you and your family are getting on now? Praying you are on route to sleeping and eating again? 

Sorry just saw this post. Thank you. Messaged you already, but still in a very low place