Exposure to asbestos

Hi.

I'm really scared. And only now I have been looking into this unfortunately not at the beginning of our renovation work 3 years ago.

I have found out that our old boiler contains pipe with the brown asbestos in it.

Long story but the builders didn't highlight it to us and just stripped out the pipework and without our knowledge dumped the pipes and possibly what was the asbestos flux in the attic. We were living there so at end of the day we went back, hoovered and stayed there.

At the time we didn't know it was asbestos.  We cleared out the attic and threw the pipes and rubbish they left out.

Now I'm terrified as only now we were looking at pictures and realising asbestos.

I'm so frightened I can't eat, sleep and feel sick.

I'm scared my husband and I are going to have a short life span leaving our baby.

 

  • Thank you. Yes had severe headache and nausea last night.

    Husband made me eat and drink something today which was hard but I know for my own good.

    I feel guilty for feeling like this, as I know it's hurting my family.

    You are so positive, and still also trying to help others.

    Also thinking of you and sorry to hear about your diagnosis. You sound so strong xx

  • So pleased you've eaten and drunk something today. Hubby sounds lovely. Don't feel guilty. Just keep taking steps to feeling well again. It's not uncommon to get emotional or anxious when you've got a baby to take care of. Hormones can be all over the place after giving birth and for some women it takes a while to settle. Things can easily get blown out of proportion then. I think tomorrow should be a bit easier for you.

    When we get really scared – I have been there – if anxiety takes over, it may take a while to get ourselves back running at our proper speed. Like a car engine running too fast.

    Having got yourself so upset it will take a while to recalibrate. But I feel you can do it especially with the support of your lovely hubby.

    I can feel your strength starting to come through now. Take care. Thinking of you Hugs xx

  • Thank you. I can be ok for a few minutes, then get terrified again. Like something triggers it. So like there is a hole in the ceiling in hallway, and it's plasterboard with asbestos in it, now panicking my baby has been under that loads of times. 

     

    And just now I recall the plumber falling through lounge ceiling, again asbestos plastered, and that's another exposure so just resurfacing all my fear

     

     

     

     

    It's definitely loads of triggers,  just gets me down again.

     

     

  • Hi - So sorry you are having to go through all this worry. I don't know how old baby is but this can happen with new mums especially during the first year and sometimes later. I am not a doctor and I cannot offer a diagnosis, but I do feel that you need to let your GP know how much anxiety you are feeling and the impact this is having on you and your family. There is nothing to feel guilty about. Tell your GP how your anxieties keep coming at you despite your wanting to dismiss them. Don't blame yourself or feel guilty as it will add to your anxiety. Do ask for whatever support is available and be kind to yourself. But please don't battle with this alone given it is loads of triggers. Your GP needs to know how much of an impact this is having on you and should be able to offer help for you to get back to feeling more normal and able to enjoy life as soon as possible.

    I know how horrible what you are experiencing is because I've been through it. 

    I have by the way known people fall through ceilings too. You are not alone in any of this. Lots of hugs xx

  • Hi - hope you managed to get some sleep and that today is a better day for you. I have a super busy day so might not be online much. But I am thinking of you and hoping you are feeling a bit better. If you are still struggling to sleep and eat, please do get support to help you get through this. xx

  • Hi thank you for checking on me.

    Not a good day, have called counseling services and got an appointment for next week, because I can't function xx

  • Hi - am really pleased you have got in touch with someone. But next week is still a long way off and you may need to speak with your GP before then if you are not eating and sleeping. Don't think you are bothering people over nothing.

    Wishing you all the best. I can see that this is all very hard for you. Try and find something small that you can take a little pleasure in today and enjoy some time with baby and hubby if you can. Maybe a walk together. Take care. Hugs xx

     

  • Hope you managed to get a little fresh air. If not, well there's always tomorrow.

    Small steps. 

    If nothing else try and force your muscles into a few silly wide clown grins in quick succession. The point of this is to release facial tension and make eating a little easier. You can do it out of sight of everyone so don't need to feel self-conscious. Can repeat when you need to take away a little bit of stress and it's the simplest stress-buster other than walking that I know. Take care xx