I am 27, still a virgin, and tried to have my first smear test last year and it was not a good experience and I cried and it didn't work. A year later  today I went again , and this time I had a brilliant nurse who was so patient and kind towards me, and even though she used the smaller speculum, I still couldn't cope with the pain and body just refused to relax, 

Mai we had to quit trying. It's hard to not get upset about it, I feel like a failure as a woman that I can't even do this, but we have booked to try again, I will keep trying. I just don't know how to not get stressed and how to not let my muscles tense so much,