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Hi 

 

Last week my partner attended the breast clinic she had a mammogram ultrasound and a biopsy. I had a chap at my car window and was asked by a nurse if I could come in while the doctor spoke to my partner as she was really nervous. Now when we went in the doctor said that it was looking like breast cancer she was 90% sure and they don't tend to get this wrong. All I was told is that its highly suspicious the lump that I think feels more of a thickening and that 3 lymph nodes are inflamed she has to go back for a ct on Tuesday and will receive all results on Thursday.

 

I am really worried as I know that it's not normal procedure to receive a ct scan unless they thought it was advanced. I just feel if the doctor was 90% certain could she not have went into more depth of telling us if she thought this had spread etc my partner is fit and healthy and plays a lot of sports. The worry I am having this week is unreal I just want to know anyone feels this is normal or can share there thoughts and opinion

 

 

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    Hi there, unless you have been in this position before no one understands how it works.  We were the same when we were told probably definitely cancer.  So what happens is that all the scans, biopsies, tests etc are put together before a team of specialists and they discuss the way forward for your partner.  Most of us hate the unknown and we all chomp on our fingernails wondering what is going on.  So it takes time to get everyone together, then her oncologist will be able to say what will happen, if it's cancer then a cancer nurse will sit in on the appointment, then she will take you to another room and ask if you have questions, explain what will happen and hand over information to help you.  This is what happens mostly but there are a lot of breast ladies on this forum who will probably give you far more information than I can.  I just hope this explains why they don't immediately confirm their thoughts.  Carol

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    Question123

    Hi im.so sorry your partner and you are both going through this , it is a worry. 

    I had a simular experience   was told it was  breast cancer, on the same day.

    Confirmed  a week  later  on the 26th May by telephone call, saying it had also spread  to my lympth nodes. I had a bone scan the nxt day in the 27th May and a ct scan the day after on  the 28th May.

    I do think they have to do these scans as a routine procedure , they have to do these  to stage the cancer, to check.its not gone anywhere else, as they really do not know this is the case untill scan results are back .I'm still waiting on my result. Trying to stay positive , as they do say no news is good news.

    I know what a difficult time this is for you both  but try not to fear the worst, cancer treatments have come along way  and are much better and there are a lot who come through  this dreadfull disease.  Hope you get some answers soon .xxx

     

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    Hi

    Thanks for your reply. The wait is horrible, but as you say no news is good news. I wish you all the best with your results. Its just so difficult trying to be positive when I feel like I keep thinking so negatively I just can't imagine my world without her 

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    Question123

    Ahhh bless you 

    That touched my heart. 

    Your beautifull partner  will be ok, she will be  scared as we all are But as i said being positive will really help , try not to let those negative  feelings   get to you.  You really dont know what is what yet, i yes they have a good idea but  it really does have to be confirmed . Just be the loving supportive partner that im sure you are, and just take each day as it comes  and be there for each other.

    My son was diognosed with testicular cancer just before Christmas, and has had chemotherapy and has a scan ti chrck everything is ok on the 10th june , sees his consultant on the 25th where im.praying we will get some good news.There is one thing ive learnt and that is .....Cancer  doesnt just belong to the person that has it, it belings to everyone that loves that person, they to have to learn how to respond to it, to come to terms with it  and deal with all it brings . But being positive , taking each day as it comes will get you  through it, as well as sights like this one .But im hoping  you get some good news .

    Im here if you ever feel.the need to talk or  just let of steam , stay strong 

    Sending some positive vibes your way  x.

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