Hi

Sorry to hear what you have got going on

From experience of having cancer myself twice, I know what you are going through.

Firstly we jump to the worst possible outcome and focus on this for some reason, made worse by doing the thing we are always told not to do, looking things up on the internet. We read the worst that it can be and this makes life hell, Anxiety hits the roof and it is unbearable.

All I can say is try to keep busy, I know it's not easy with the current situation.

I think the not knowing is harder than the actual diagnosis because when you know what you are dealing with everything is put in action for treatment etc.

Have they actually said the mass is cancer or could there be another reason?

Stay strong, as each day passes you'll get there. x

Hi there ...

Firstly take some deep breaths .... your not alone... I don't know anyone who didn't think like you, on waiting for results or treatments ... we've all been there and got the tea shirt ... mine says " cancer touched my boob ... so I kicked it's ***"  

But I went through two days of shutting away, cussing cancer .. couldn't eat or talk to anyone ... even made my funeral plans ... and wrote letters to those I love ... I had a grade 3 breast cancer... and was looking at a total right masectomy.... everything was scary, and looked black ...

But my daughter in law,  got us all together , as my son was loosing it too ... and said no more what ifs... no more panicking ... no looking ahead .. well live in the day, take each problem as and when it comes up.. and well deal with it together ..

It was the best advice ever .. and true to her word, they held my hand all through ... yes I still get days were I'm low .. I admit it's o.k to have those feelings .. then get back up... get my boxing gloves back on .. and climb back in the ring ... coz cancer wants us to lay down and never get up... it wants us all weak ..

Well when you had your babies .. you fed them, taught them to walk and start talking .. you held their hand .. now its time to do it for your lass ... and you havnt even had results yet .. it may not be as bad as you think ... and you know, there's lots of us on here, been through our cancer journey .. and those I came on with in 2017 ... wer all still here ... ones just had a baby after her treatment .. most have gone back to their life post cancer... and me, my plans for funeral, and those letters, are put safely away ... hopefully for a while yet ... 

We only hear the sad journeys on t.v but there's lots , kick it's *** ... my granddaughter now has acute myeloid leukaemia and she's just 18 .. my daughter in law (her mum) is now holding her up.. and wer all right there holding her hand .. no what ifs .. no looking ahead ... and one day I hope to get her a tea shirt saying she's kicked it's *** too ... 

So be kind to yourself ... it's o.k to feel angry .. or sad .. it's o.k to share tears together .. but hold on in there ... I'm still hoping it will be better news .. but if not .. get in that boxing ring with your lass .. wer all in there with you ...  sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie x

My mum had this a few years back and they suspected ovarian cancer, on the letter it said pelvic mass and it turned out to be huge fibroids so she needed a hysterectomy.

Just two years ago I had the same condition, picked up when I was having IVF, I had a myomectomy.

The word mass doesn't always mean cancer xx 

Let us know how you get on

Hello [@Ross59]‍ 

I’m sorry youry partner has a 7cm pelvic “mass” - it's good they have taken blood tests.

Sorry she also has other symptoms that could point towards some form of pelvic cancer. 

Waiting for results is hard.

Please try not to be hard on yourself, it must be difficult with dauthters.

Dr Google is not your friend, its given me many frights about various illnesses.

Pleaes don't think you are selfish, you sound like a loving Dad and husband.

All I can do is share my experience, although more minor, in mid march I had a lump in my mouth and the GP sent me to see an oral surgeon saying they may need to do biospy.

I hoped the surgeon would not need to do biopsy but she decided to and I am waiting for results.

I hope this doesn't sound trite, but I am telling myself, that until I get the results, I have no definitive evidence to say I have cancer. I have waited over 3 weeks, I will ring tomorrow.

I wish I could say something other than, keep being the loving Dad you are, and keep us informed. Also you might like to look at some anxiety management tools online. hugs to you and your family.

Thank you for your replies.

We managed to at least talk properly last night and it has helped a bit. I had no-one to talk to as I don’t want to worry my parents etc yet, so it was all bottled up inside. 

Still terrified but keeping it under control hopefully. I at least slept well for the first time in 3 days. Let’s see how today goes. 

i’ll keep you informed of any news.

Thanks again.

Hi [@Ross59]‍ 

You're welcome.

Glad you managed to talk properly last night and it has helped a bit.

glad it's helped, sorry she is terrified, she is strong for keeping it under control but it would be goood for her to talk and not bottle it up.

I'm glad you slept well.