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Hi

just to say test were clear, was a cyst which they drained, so relieved, doctor and nurses were brilliant 

thanks to all for your encouraging words 

take care x

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    Hi Deefor,

    I am glad to hear that you had your biopsies today. It will be an anxious time for you until next Wednesday, but I sincerely hope that your results are good.

    Are you taking someone with you to your appointment? It is always a good idea to do this if you can. Also, you may find it helpful to write a list of any questions that you may have.

    Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

     

  • Thank you Jolamine,

    yes I have a friend coming with me, she is a wonderful chatterbox, which is great :).

    ive prepared my questions so that I won't forget anything if I'm in a haze, and having been honest with my work place, they are giving me the time off for appts freely. 

    It is a concerning time, for sure, but I know that if a rocky path is ahead, then comfort can be found here, and with my closest of friends.

    thank you for taking the time to reply, and for all others on this thread with good news, so delighted for you....remember to keep life clean, happy, full and keep checking, not just your boobies, but keep up the appts for smear tests, encourage others to do the same. ;)

     

    heres to to a week of work and delcuttering to keep me busy!

    deefor x

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    Hi Deefor,

    Keeping yourself busy doesn't have to be all work. Make time for some pleasurable pursuits too. I am glad to hear that you have a friend going with you and that your work is being so considerate. If there is a rocky road ahead of you, you will cope, simply because we all have to, but here's hoping for better news.

    Kind regards,,

    Jolamine xx

  • Thank you Jolamine, sending much love you and your nearest and dearest x

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    Hi Deefor,

    Thank you again.

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi all, thought I'd post to keep the thread going...

    3 more sleeps, and then I know what I'm dealing with. 

    I found a kind of peace at the weekend...I've come to realise that I push myself far too much, try to squeeze too much in...some of this is owing to being a single parent, and I want to be sure that my boys have the very best opportunities that I can give them, and that takes a little bit extra out of me from time to time, and so I've reflected, and changed things a little...

    caffeine - I would easily drink 7 cups of coffee per day, I've reduce this to 3, and filled the rest with beautiful (caffeine free) herbals

    bedtime - I've been more strict, to avoid crashing out of the sofa exhausted to only wake at 2am...I still wake at 2am, but I only have to read a page of a book and then turn over

    fitness - I had to take a little break after the biopsies - the brushing was so bad, and the recommendation was to not run owing to the possibility of internal bleeding- this has been the hardest - running / exercise is my stress buster...but it will come back

    for anyone who's reading this and waiting for results, be at peace - today, tomorrow, take comfort from friends - please share your worries, it will help, there are wonderful, courageous individuals on here...they / I will always listen.

    3 more sleeps...

    x

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    HI Deefor,

    I'm so glad to hear that you've done a little self-appraisal and decided to make a few changes. It's never easy being a single parent. What ages are the boys? However, one thing missing from your changes is to be a little kinder to yourself and, don't push yourself too much. It is only natural that you want the best for your boys, but you need to look after yourself too.

    It won't be long before you can get back to running again. I'm sure that you are missing it at the moment.  Only 3 more sleeps? You're almost there. I hope that it all works out well for you.

    Kind regards,


    Jolamine xx

  • Hi Jolamine,

    hope you have had a good week.

    so whilst I wait for the final tests to be returned, I met with my surgeon yesterday. I have Breast Cancer, stage 2, the surgery is booked, unless the results come back on Monday for something else (in think triple neg/HER something - I don't know I couldn't take it all in yesterday) and if they come back positive it will be chemo first.

    his given the overview for the year ahead, and both he and I have decided to brisk it down into 3 week chunks - that way I can face each three weeks with full knowledge of what I should do at that moment.

    not much else to say, is there -  you've been there, and are strong and amazing, no doubt at times you didn't feel strong - so, be seeing you more often on here, probably.

    take care, for now

    stay amazing x

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    Hi Deefor,

    I am so sorry to hear this. Welcome to the club that nobody wants to join. I presume that you meant that your cancer is grade 2? Staging isn't done unil after surgery. It is so difficult to take everything in along with the shock of a positive diagnosis.

    HER 2 is a protein which stimulates the growth of cancer. About 1 in 5 breast cancers have a higher than normal level of HER2 on the cell surface. If your cancer is HER2 positive you will usually be advised to have chemo and a drug or drugs known as targeted therapies. If you are diagnosed as HER2 negative, then targeted therapies given to HER2 positive breast cancer will not be of any benefit.

    Triple negative breast cancer occurs when breast cancer tests negative for progesterone, oestrogen and HER2 receptors. This means that targeted therapy and hormone therapy drugs will not be of any benefit. Triple negative cancer can be treated by surgery, radiotherapy, chemotherapy (either before or after surgery) and sometimes bisphosphonates. About 15% of people with invasive breast cancer have triple negative breast cancer. (Breast Care Cancer UK).

    Next time you see your surgeon ask him about this. Did you take someone with you to your appointment? It is always a good idea to do this, particularly if you expect to get any test results. It can also be helpul to write down a list of any questions you have.

    I expect that you will feel anxious about your treatment but relieved to at last have a diagnosis and happier now that you are moving forward with treatment. There were certainly times when I felt frightened and nervous and was an absolute mess. I have had 10 years to come to terms with this and, still have darker days, but it is so much easier to deal with when one has a more positive viewpoint.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you are getting on. Remember that we are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

     

  • Hi Jolamine,

    thank you for your reply, yes the club that nobody wants to join, but as many per many clubs, it is built on a common goal, aspiration, inspiration and friendship.

    so much to take in, and I thought I'd just take a little time over this weekend to be 'normal' whilst it sinks in, it'll be a long road ahead.

    we are all very fortunate to have also found you here....you understand the importance to know that someone is listening who completely understands the thoughts and feelings that are being experienced.

    i guess I'll start a feed on the newly diagnosed section, hope to see you there x

    deefor