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I feel like it is lost cause already.

NordicBelle
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Hello, 

my mother is waiting for a diagnosis for ovarian cancer. In the hospital, I stupidly took a photograph of her CT report. Coupled with comments from her consultant. All hope that this is benign or curable has been lost for me. All I am doing is crying.

It is not fair that others have their parents into elderly years and mine has not reached retirement age. I have been out of the country for 13 years. Moved back to spend time with the family before all this hits. We only had two wonderful months together. 

I visit my mother in the hospital. I break down crying which is getting her upset. I just want this all to stop but sadly it has not yet begun. 

 

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    As difficult has this is the one thing that nobody can ever take away is hope only you can't let that go , be strong I have been in your shoes. My mum has been battling cancer like a warrior for 5 and a half years and there have been some big ups and some very big down however everyday is a blessing and remember tomorrow isn't promised to anybody, there have been so many people that have safely lost there lives to completely unrelated things since my mum was diagnosed so just take each day at a time xxxxxx god bless xx

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    Hi there, 

    I wish I could offer you words of comfort. If you haven't been told for sure yet I would just try to stay positive and have hope. Crying in front of her will just make her feel guilty for being unwell which I know you dont want. 

     

    My mum (also not even at retirement age yet) has stage 4 lung cancer that has spread to shoulders, spine and hips and also her lymph notes. She is terminal. Cancer in any form is a cruel disease. She has been in hospital for 5 weeks now do to reoccurring infections. Today she cried her heart out. Not for herself but worried about me and my brother. The guilt people with cancer carry with them I am realising is enormous.

     

    I do not cry in front of her. I hold her hand and keep strong and tell her to deal with each day as it comes. 

     

    I hope you have someone at home that is supporting you. Can give you a shoulder to cry on.

     

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