Feel alone in this

Hi,

Fist let me say thank you for reading this and I'm sorry if you are going through this as well.

I'm 38 a mother of 2 girls one 16 with autism and one 9, I also have 3 step kids who live with their mum. I also have a very loving but terrified husband.

Just before Christmas I noticed that my left nipple was peeling and was a little uncomfortable. I put it down to hormones. Christmas came and I noticed a lump under my arm. Thursday I went to see my GP. He did a examination and discovered 2 further lumps in my left breast and has referred me to a breast clinic within 2 weeks.

I'm in a stupid amount of pain with it and cant lift my arm fully. I'm having to wear crop tops as a bra is so uncomfortable. I cant sleep I've been coughing for weeks on top. I'm so scared of what they will find. Its doing my head in

I have been told that cancer is not usually painful and that its probably nothing but I cant help thinking what if it is?

My daughter is starting her GCSE finals soon and cant tell her what's going on as she can barely understand day to day stuff. 

I'm sure this must sound like I'm just feeling sorry for myself. I will deal with what ever the outcome is but cant bare the waiting. 

My nan had non hodgkin lymphoma which spread. My grandad had a rare form of brain cancer and my uncle had a brain tumour. I helped to nurse them all over the years.

Has anyone got any advice on how to get a grip on this.

  • Hi Laine

    I had the exact same symptoms as yourself. I got a rapid referral seen in 3 days. My GP had started me on a course of antibiotics, these were a godsend as what turned out to be an abcess came to a head and ruptured. Once that happened the pain totally went.I had the same happen one year later and I knew straight away it was another abcess and got on the phone for a prescription.

    I am hoping to give you an insight that you may well be worrying yourself sick,which is understandable giving family history,but there are various cysts lumps etc it isnt always the dreaded C.

    Take care and try to not worry so much.xxx

    I meant to add that if pain is bad perhaps seeing GP again rather than wait till your appointment.xx

     

  • Hi Clara,

    Thank you so much for letting me know how you got on and your experienced with this. I am trying to stay focused While waiting for the appointment.

    Fingers crossed the outcome will be similar to yours. It's been a week today since seeing the GP so hopefully I can find out soon.

    I do hope that you have fully recovered. Thank you so much for responding. It's made me feel better about it all.

    Thanks again 

    Laine 

     

  • Update 

    I now have an appointment booked in for 10 am on Thursday. The lady on the phone sounded very nice and talked me through the appointment. My husband has taken the day off to be with me during the tests.

    Thanks

     

  • Hi Laine

    Not too long to wait now.

    Hopefully you will get answers on the day and not be kept waiting.

    Thats great that your husband is going to be there with you. We all need support at times like this.

    My late husband was there with me on the day as well. When I got back to the waiting room he was making himself ill with worry as I had been gone so long he was fearing the worst. So do explain to husband that you may be awhile as there is always a que and they dont release you till mamogram is read then you see Dr for result.

    Good luck and I will be thinking of you. Do come back to let us know how it went. xx

  • Thank you. The lady said on the phone to allow for 3 hours minimum for the tests to be done.

    My husband has been frantically researching symptoms and driving me nuts to be honest. I know he's just worried.

    I'm sorry to hear you lost you husband. I hope I've not brought up any painful memories for you.

    I will of course update with the outcome after the appointment. I've got everything crossed for now.

    Thank you for your support means the world that I can tell someone what I'm feeling.

    Thanks again

  • Hi Laine

    Try to keep your mind on one thing for the time being and say to yourself its not cancer till they say it is.

    Tell hubby to stay off Dr Google it only makes you frantic. It always matches symptoms with worst scenario.

    No not a painfull memory so dont worry on that score.

    My husband had cancer and it came back with a vengeance. I got a cancer diagnosis last year the day after being told I am in late stage MS. I take this all in my stride though nothing I can do to change things.

    I start my house move this week and that is telling on me I can tell you so much to do and little time to do it.

    I am so hoping you will both be sighing with relief come Thursday! Take care xx

     

  • Hi,

    Just wanted to update you. Sorry been trying to get my head around it.

    The doctor said there's no sign of any tumors but the lumps are caused by thickening of the breast tissue. A pre-menapausal symptom.

    I had a mammogram just to make sure and the results were clear. The pain should settle down hopefully soon with some pain gel and painkillers.

    Thank you for all you support and good luck with the move.

    I wish you well and hope you stay as healthy as possible.

    Thank you

    Laine

     

  • Hi Laine

    Sorry Ive been too long replying. No broadband at new house untill today.

    I am so happy you got a good result it must be a huge weight off you both.

    We women have so many times in life that upset our bodies pre meno, meno, post meno. Thats why I say in my next life Im coming back as a pampered pet or maybe male gender lol.

    Any how take good care of yourself and keep well xx

    PS. We re always here if you need a chat.