Found 2 lumps in my breast just before Christmas, also had dimpling. I had a mammogram and ultrasound yesterday and was told that they think it's cancer. Wasn't expecting to be told that at this stage. Waiting on biopsy results
I didn't meant to point the finger in any way - sorry if you got that feeling. I was just giving you the benefit of what other parents of young children do when confronted with a cancer diagnosis. Having said that, there is no one rule for all. Breast cancer is one of the most treatable forms of cancer, which is good news.
It is possible to conceal things for a short time, but becomes more difficult in the long term. You never know when you're going to get phone calls from the breast care clinic to return for test results, etc. Friends and family may also phone you at 'inconvenient' times too.
Children have big ears and, can often overhear conversations that they're not supposed to hear. They can also pick up vibes from you. Even though you sound as if you are doing well and keeping in charge of things, I'm sure that you have your wobbly moments too. Children can pick up on these vibes very easily and, by the sounds of things your daughter seems more perceptive than most.
There is no need to worry about telling them until you get your results. My point in bringing up this topic was to give you time to think about what you want to tell them and, to prepare yourself to do this.
Sorry have just seen [@Moderator Jenn] has tagged me to offer support. [@Jolamine] has been a great support to me when I was going through BC in 2018/19 and she's been there done that. I haven't much to add but I was told at the breast clinic they thought mine was normal but they would do biopsies anyway, thank goodness they did as it revealed high grade DCIS and post op found invasive cancer among the DCIS. IF you have BC its a blessing they found it as they will be able to treat it. The treatment isnt too bad, it is doable and the ladies on here will testify that life continues afterwards :)
As a mother myself I know you will be thinking of your children, we all do it. It makes this diagnosis even harder but try and look at it positively. The results may come back benign or, if not. you will be treated to get rid of the disease and its a great feeling once the cancer is gone.
Thank you for all your advice and support, I rang my nurse today as after a long week at work, checking my phone, I just wanted to know if there was any idea, of anything and even though I have the weekend to get through she was able to tell me that she thought my results were back but not sure if they were ready. But promised she would ring me Monday morning, do a little glimmer of hope that I don't have to much longer to find out. Fingers crossed it's good news xx
This is good news. They usually hold an MDT meeting when the results are back. This is where all the people who will be involved in your care, discuss the best way forward for you. If they're back, they may still need to go to this meeting first, but in that case, you should hopefully get them sometime this week .
Niknik, I've responded to you in the triple negative thread but wasn't sure if I'd missed a post so did a quick search. I can see that you're still waiting for your diagnosis.
I was diagnosed back in August and have a now one year old, it's very scary to get a diagnosis but for me, having a young child made it even scarier. At least mine isn't old enough to understand what's going on which helps.
Anyway, just wanted you to know I understand how you feel, hoping you get good news at your appointment.
