Please help me 

I am a 36 Yr old mother of four. 3 with additional needs.  I just can't cope with the concern.

The last few months I have been suffering with hurrendoues back ache (upper) numerous trips to gp. Some put it to my inflammatory arthritis and also wry neck. Like a spasm.

I found a lump in my neck above my collar bone and not wanting to bother the surgery again I just took even more pain relief 30/500 and baclofen. Thinking it was something to do with the injury.

After a few weeks of just not being able to complete daily tasks and even taking a few days off work. I went to my gp. Whom agreed there was a significant lump in my neck as well as  my groin. Asking me a few questions. She decided to refer Me to haematology. Took some bloods and told me not to worry.. I have lost weight as well as sweat during the night. All of what I have attributed to being constant with 4 kids ranging from 2-13.. I was told the sweating was apart of the early menapuase.

So I got the appointment with in the week. I was told to bring someone with me.. 

I met the doctor who asked me questions and examined me. He found a lump in m armpit 2.5 cm and tail end ofy breast.  I have been red flagged for a ct scan and breast care. He has aired he believes there is concern for cancer and that the pain in my upper back is also to do with the problem.

I am holding it together for others. Because my husband has not an inch of empathy. My children are constantly asking me if I am OK. As I can't even manage the dishes. Husband is to concerned about his ps4 and work.

Friday the 13th is my appointment with breast care team. The ct scan was delayed as I had to prove I wasn't pregnant. With blood test.

I am thinking alsorts now 

Thanks for any help you can give me to help reduce my stress 

Jules