Tallulah 1 

What a terrible time you're having.. so sorry to hear about you're miscarriage

I really don't think they should mention the 'C' word before any test results have come back. It's really not fair on the patient. 

All the best with your procedure, let us know how it goes. 

Big hugs. Xx

Hi Cat

They shouldn’t mention cancer at this stage because they don’t know without a biopsy. It’s only a biopsy that will give a definitive answer. My gynaecologist took 2 punch biopsies and still only said he could see a lesion on my cervix where in fact it was a visible tumour. He still didn’t mention cancer until my biopsy results confirmed it, though he must have been pretty certain when he could see it! I was told I would need to return in a week for my results, and he told me not to go on the holiday I was due to go on. So I’m sure he knew, but couldn’t say until the biopsies were tested. 

I’m sorry you are going through all this stress...I don’t believe nurses should make any assumptions without knowing for sure, and certainly shouldn’t upset patients like this. It might be cancer, but equally it might not. Finding out quickly is a good thing however, because you then you will know for sure what you are dealing with. Try not to panic too much for now. Happy to help with any questions if I can-I was diagnosed in September 2018. xx

Hi Minska

Thank you for sharing your experience. 

Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. 

Totally agree "cancer" should NOT be mentioned  untill confirmed. Maybe it was a scare tactic so I attend my regular checks, if so it's bloody worked! 

 If you don't mind me asking what stage are you at with your cancer, undergoing treatment? 

How has it affected your daily activities of life? Have you been well supported? 

All the best. 

Big hugs.

Hi Cat

Diagnosed stage 2b. Finished treatment Christmas Eve 2018. Told in April 2019 no evidence of disease. Been fine up till October when something tiny was spotted during a check up, so I’ve had an mri, pet scan and biopsy under anaesthetic and get the results on December 9th. 

It took me a couple of months after treatment to feel normal again and I’ve had a good few months. I felt pretty drained through the treatment to be fair-it’s quite harsh, but it does get good results. I did get very tired and had bladder and bowel side effects, which most ladies do to some degree or another. 

I didn’t tell many people I had cancer until after my treatment finished. I rely on my partner and one close friend for support...everyone else just melted away and no-one bothers even to ask how I am! I realised quickly who I could rely on.Hope you have better support if you need it. xx

Morning. 

Thank you for being so open, this forum/ you have given me so much while my mind has been in over drive. Very much appreciated

It's always times like these you realise your true family and friends, definitely hold onto those that have shown you support. 

I do hope your results this month come back good. 

I'll keep you posted about mine. 

Have a lovely Sunday xx

Hi Cat

I’ll be sticking around here, and will check for your updates. Its funny..I’m very private generally in life and don’t tell people my business...hardly anyone even knows what cancer I have..it’s like my little bit of control over something I otherwise have no control over and it’s personal to me. But I’m happy to be open on a forum like this if I can help out because I know the fear of waiting for tests and results and I understand. I hope your results are not as bad as you might anticipate from that nurse. That was a bit cruel. Fingers crossed. xx