How to tell your parents

On Friday I attended a colposcopy appt and my world fell down around me when i was told my smear test result was extremely worrying and the big C word was mentioned. 

Thankfully i had my husband with me who had a clear head to ask questions.

My test results are being rushed and i should have them in a week but my dilema is how and when do i tell my parents? We live over 100 miles away and happen to be at theirs today for lunch and i am torn whether to tell them about my testing or wait until i have the result. I am edging towards telling them as either way i will require treatment and if its the worst, it will come from nowhere for them if i don't tell them now. 

What has been your experiences and if you did have the conversation, how did you do it? 

I feel so lost and confused, any advise would mean alot to me. x

  • Hi Lynn..

    From what you've said, I think you know ... gentle honesty is the way to go ... just telling it as it is .. you've had tests, and got to wait for the results ... Will prepare them if it is positive .. as finding out that news will no forwarding, just may be too much ... and if mum or dad get really upset ... that's o.k .. it's about sharing feelings ... and if you have a few tears and admit it's a scary time ... you'll all be on the same page ... 

    Just say don't think the worse till the results are in ... well that's what I'd do ... it was really heartbraking seeing those you love upset ... but then they walk with you .. and feel your being honest ... as if you say nothing and they sense something's wrong, they'll be even more worried .. and at least there's two of them, to share it ...

    That's just my take .. I'm pleased I was open right from the start .. but listen to your heart ... I'm sure the answer is right there ...  Chrissie xx

  • Hi

    I have been in a very similar position.

    I had already warned my brother I was having checks previously, when the clinic said it was suspicious he actually told my mum and dad in person. I don’t live near my parents so I felt it was better some one told them in person rather than on the phone. I then rang them a few days after once I could get through a conversation!

    My results day is on Thursday hopefully everything will be ok but if not at least they are a bit prepared.

    Your family may cope differently, mine have all been supportive offering to drop everything and come up. There is no right or wrong.

    Wishing you the very best, let me know how you get on. Xx