Hi

my youngest daughters birthday 13 today 10th) on the same day my wife was told by Gp chest X-ray does not look good and with her symptoms extremely likely to be lung cancer and he is 90% sure but can’t say anymore until ct scan and then biopsy. 

We have not told any family members yet waiting for CT scan (22nd feels so far away) and biopsy results (will know after ct scan)then we will know exactly what we are dealing with.

my wife is being so strong just wants to carry on as normal. She does not want our daughters 14 , 13 to get wind of this. Me on the other hand have fallen to pieces can’t stop crying, can’t sleep. I feel so guilty for feeling like this when my wife is the one who is going through this and she is so strong. 

She is only 44. Similar story to others on here went to GP as coughed went on for 5 weeks just told her just a viral thing loads going round and is taking a while to get rid of so basically sit it out. I made my wife make another appointment but that was not 4 months later (4 week wait to see GP) I told her she should of went as emergency she but she said it’s not and would get told the same. Really angry with myself for not making her go back sooner, GP had made her feel guilty for wasting his time. We have wasted 5 months now!.

She is the most amazing mum and wife a beautiful person. I’m 35 I would swap places in a heartbeat, the girls need there Mum.

it helps to put down it words how I’m feeling I don’t want to burden my wife as she has enough to deal with. Any helpful advice most welcome.