Finally

I originally saw my consultant on 1st of feb (12weeks ago) had ct/pet scan 10 weeks ago and received my letter for appointment with my consultant today still got to wait nearly 2weeks hey ho. I have had 2 x pre ops and seen aneathetist due to a goiter I have re incubation for op (which is fine no treatment needed) who said had copy of scan all OK except overian mass indetermined and malignancy cannot be ruled out?? So more stressed than ever. I just need to know what I'm dealing with so I can prepare to deal with as efficiently as I'm able to and if undetermined why have they waited this long to get the op date sorted I know I'm having a hysterectomy I thought there are time scales in place in nhs I know there are people worse off and consultants very busy but my head is wrecked waiting. Everybody telling me no news good news but I just néed to know I consider myself a very positive person but its like I've got a smaller me on one shoulder telling me you can do this your going to be fine and on the other shoulder irrationally telling me your doomed Ive got loads of lovely supportive family and friends and I talk about it to all of them but I can't bring myself to tell them I'm actually quite scared because I know it will upset them xx

  • Hi Pmb21,

    I can understand the wait would make you anxious. It's great that you have a supportive family, so you need to tell them how you feel. It's natural to feel scared about what's to come, but if you talk to them about your fears you could find a way to face them together. A problem shared is a problem halved, as they say. There are some tips for waiting here, which I hope will help.

    Best wishes,

    Moderator Anastasia

  • Thank you for you guidance in 'tips for waiting' very much appreciate it. I just feel waiting a week off   3 months for results as my appointment is the 8th of May is rather excessive especially when my consultant advised there was a possibility of cancer! The mental stress is over whelming even my meditation is failing sometimes ! I know I am very lucky indeed to have as much support as I have and appreciate every ounce of their support and love. The main issue I have is my eldest daughter is due our second grandchild in 6 weeks so I'm playing down how I am feeling at the moment as I don't want her to feel any more stress and worry than she already is. My husband and sisters and best friend know how I'm feeling but I do play it down for obvious reasons. thanks again