Hello Chrisbristol and welcome to the forum.  I am sorry that you are not only worrying about your own health but also fearing the effect any bad medical news may have on your wife.  I think it is generally a mistake to try to hide things from someone with whom you are close; your wife may already be wondering what is happening and  why you are not telling her something.    Even given the tragedy of her first husband's death she will probably prefer to be told upfront - we like to think that our loved ones won't hide things from us even if it is with the best of intentions.  (How does the saying go "The road to hell is paved with good intentions."  Obviously you (and we here) are hoping that the outcome will not be the bad one; she may still feel that you should have shared what was happening with her.  Please do keep in touch whatever you decide - of course you don't have to come back and tell us but we would like to know.  Annie 

My wife is fully aware what is happening and I am open with her. It’s how the worry is affecting me. As I’m being strong for her, Stiff upper lip as they say..  just got the impression at the hospital today they were not telling me something, maybe just me. But had the PET scan last week, and yes I no a PET alone may not show a Hot spot but doesn’t mean it’s not cancer. The waiting is killing me. And the fact I have no symptoms and no infection marker. Just this nodule. The consultant when he referred to it he said it was a mass. Now what is it a mass or a nodule isn’t it that a mass is over >5 cm and a nodule is<5cm. I’m so confused and