Help needed

Hi ladies, your help is needed. Two weeks ago just over, after what has been a most stressful period in my life that I can ever remember I’ve been diagnosed with a new breast mass in non mastectomy side. I was diagnosed with primary breast cancer in 1999 & then  a Recurrence in 2001 and secondary diagnosis in 2005 with mets to bones & liver. Had a biopsy on the new Tumor but only half of the results back. No histology. All I know is it’s IDC grade 2. Don’t know yet if it’s the same as my original primary. Had a CT scan but no results yet. Am feeling dreadful, look washed out and pallid. Am now convinced I have liver probs as I have upper right quadrant sporadic pain which is more likely a flare up of my IBS/IBD & diverticula disease but I’m going out of my mind with worry. I lost my Dad suddenly & unexpectedly at Xmas and I am sole executor of his estate. And my eldest daughter also lost a baby at the end of 2018! Quite honestly I’m a mess. Can anyone tell me if they think my sporadic pain could be liver? I don’t have any other symptoms of liver disease apart from feeling tired & washed out all the time. Bloods I’m told were ok, but forgot to ask for specific liver function test.  I’m being allowed to remain on herceptin until we know what this new tumour is. I’m just a wreck and don’t know where to turn. Have a great CNS but only feel I can cope when she’s given me a talking to. 

  • Hi there ...

    No wonder your washed out ... any one thing of what you've been through is devistating. . But one after another .. you must feel like one of those children's punch sand bags .. every time you get up, you get knocked back down .. 

    Now all I can tell you is the advice my son gave me once years ago, when I felt overwhelmed...and wasn't coping .. he told me to stop and rest and breath ... and then take the most important problem and deal with that .. and go through everything just one step at a time ... don't look at the whole picture or it looks never ending and it all comes in on you ... as much as l thought it would never work .. it did ..

    So now through life I have brought that along my journey .. and my daughter in law also said .. no more "what ifs" ... and one day at a time too .. if you can have a good scream , get all that emotion out (hopefully not in the middle of tesco) and then get your old boxing gloves out, ready to kick cancers *** again ... there's always someone here you can vent / chat too ... lots of us breast lasses on here. . 

    Try to talk to your breast cancer nurse or McMillan and even our lovely nurses here for practical help .. so be kind to your self .. and know even super woman couldn't go through what you have without cracking .. wer just human ... so sending you a vertual hug. . Chrissie x