Convinced I have cancer and terrified.

Hello

I need to talk to someone as I feel I am loosing my mind with worry.

In 2015 I lost my husband to colorectal cancer and I now think I have cancer too. I am a mother of three wonderful teenagers and I am terrified of leaving them with no parent at all and not seeing them grow up!

Christmas and New Year I felt perfectly well with no concerns. On 2 Jan all of a sudden I had terrible pain in my right hand side and it hasn’t gone away. The pain now is in my lower back too. What troubles me is that I have not had my bowels open properly for 3 weeks. The Dr put me on movicol which has done nothing. I had Senna which gave me a watery loss and very thin poo lick the shape of green beans!!!! I went to A&E and had an X-ray which confirmed I was full of poo. I then had an enema which didn’t work! I am passing wind so there is no complete blockage. I am booked to have an emergency colonoscopy Thursday 7 Feb and I am worried the prep won’t clean me out. I have had one prep and I have lost fluid, so the Dr has told me to take extra stools.

I feel well in myself, my bloods are ok and CA125 markers are within normal range. They did those as they thought the pain was from an ovary. 

I am crying myself to sleep at night and waking in sheer terror. I don’t know what to do or think. I have no one to talk to. People I mention it to say you are bound to be worried after loosing your husband but be positive. Thank you for listening. X 

  • Hi there. Thank you for your response.

    It makes it so much worse when you have lost your husband, nan, aunt and 24 cousin to cancer. Then the problem when you go to the doctors is they tell you you have anxiety. I accept I might be anxious but the pain is real and I am living with it. 

  • I totally understand. I'm so sorry your having to go through this, sounds like you've had it tough. Hope things get easier in time 

  • Hello there,

     

    I've read through this thread and I just want to say I'm so sorry you're going through this, I hope you've got some clearer answers now and are doing well.

     

    But sadly I know your fear all to well. I'm only 16 and for months I've been having digestive issues, and of late I've been feeling pain in my lower abdomen and may have felt a growth. Was diagnosed with IBS a few weeks ago but the pain and possible growth tells me otherwise. Covid makes physical testing near impossible. Parents think I'm a hypochondriac. I had a panic attack tonight about it and have a break down almost everyday about it. The fear of leaving my family behind haunts me every second of my life. Just hope you know we're all in this together, we're here for you and although no one could ever understand us personally, I promise you that we've got each other. 

  • Hi Foxylou, 

     

    I was just reading through your thread because I'm having all the same symptoms that you were having and wondered how you are doing and whether you're still in pain?

     

    X

  • Hi u can talk to me.. I'm exactly the same everything I have for more than few days.. Is the dreaded cancer.. An like u I wake up in terror.. Today Xmas has been a baddddddd day for me, I've had panic attacks all day.. Pending doom an death is so real for me.. I've had tinitus get louder since my necks been bad so it's getting to much.. I think I'm dying with a b tumour... Explain how urs affects u x

  • Hi Foxy 

    I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband and as if the pain of this is upsetting enough you now have this to worry about.  I'm a nurse so have a little bit of an insight into reasons you may be having pain.  Firstly stress has a massive impacted on your physical well being. The hormone cortisone which is released during stress causes many true symptoms.  It effects muscles, nerves and your digestive system.  Also you know how painful wind and bowel movements can be and if your bowels are full the pain will be horrific.  You could also have another condition other than cancer such as cholecystitis.  As simple as it seems there is no better treatment as exercise to get your bowels moving and a good meditation app such as pumpkin.  Also diet and breathing exercises.  Believe me if the Drs suspected cancer you would be rushed through many tests.  Also surely they would of asked for a stool sample.  It's good that your passing wind and as you say a sign your bowels are moving and not blocked.  I'm also wondering if you've been eating adequate amounts of food since the loss of your husband which would make an obvious impact on your digestive system.  Please update me on your progress and sending big hugs xx