Hi Moll,

I am so sorry to hear that your results indicate breast cancer. Did they tell you what type of breast cancer? If you have to have cancer, this is about as good as it gets. Grade 1 is usually slow growing and, the fact that it is hormone responsive is encouraging. You won't be certain about the lymph nodes until samples are sent to pathology after your operation.

I know that you are anxious to get your surgery over and done with as soon as possible, but please don't worry about the time scale. This is fairly normal timing and, your care team wouldn't leave you that long if they felt that it might hamper your recovery. All of the hormone therapies have their side-effects. Some people have severe side-effects whilst others just sail through. If it becomes unbearable, you can always change to a different type of treatment.

You will begin to feel better now as you move forward to treatment. I am glad to hear that you are able to tell the family positively. Your approach makes all the difference as to how family and friends cope with it. I found it easier to deal with once I knew what was happening. Your work should be a good distraction as you wait for surgery. Different people react differently to treatment and some take longer to recover from surgery than others. However, I think that you'll be glad to have 3 months to recuperate.

Here's hoping that you are on the right track now.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you both.

There was so much info to take on board yesterday. I came away with a folder full of stuff. 
 

It's stage 1 but grade 2.

no evidence of lymph node involvement so far (on imaging or examination) but she said they'll remove a node or two to double check 
 

hormone responsive but something else (protein?) negative which she said are both good things. 
 

Yes I'm thinking that surely they would have had me in quicker for surgery if it was necessary. I asked about the chance of it spreading but they seemed confident that it wouldn't. At the time I was reassured by that but now I'm stressing a bit just incase mine is different and it does!

I can't help but thinking that every twinge, headache, cramp or whatever is a sign that it's already spread somewhere but I said that and was told that's a very natural reaction and most people feel the same. I just need to chill out and go with the flow 

i will definitely appreciate having three months off work.. then it will summer holidays so that's even better xx

And yes I'm feeling so much better than I was this time last week thank you x

Thank you! I had biopsies taken today and am obviously worried. I have an appt on Thursday for the results. 

Hi Moll,

Most people seem to discover all sorts of extra pains and niggles and immediately think the same as you. This is perfectly normal, but scary nonetheless. Fortunately, most breast cancers are not associated with pain.

There is always a lot to take in at your results appointment. This is why I advise people to take someone with them, as two heads remember more than one.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Ratbagtazbag,

Welcome to our forum. This is always a worrying time when there are so many unknowns. Are you taking someone with you to your appointment on Thursday. I would strongly advise you to do so.

I hope that all turns out well for you on Thursday and that nothing untoward is found. Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Yes definitely. My husband came and he asked lots of questions too. I couldn't have done that on my own xx

Hi Jolamine

Thank you so much for your reply. My Mum died a year ago on Friday from breast cancer (and it's 2 years ago for my Anutie) so I am really struggling with grief and I remember going with my Mum to her appointments and now am worrying that it will be me now. 
I am so lucky to have a very supportive hubby who was with me yesterday and will be coming to my appointment on Thursday. 
I was supposed to be travelling up to stay with my sister on Thursday to remember my Mum and will have to go up the following day now. I was hoping to not have to tell her about this but will now as she will question the change of plan. 
 
I am slightly relieved to see all the things going through my mind are similar to others and it's probably best to try and keep busy. I am at work on Monday and Uni on Tuesday and Wednesday so that will take my mind off it as much as possible. 
Best wishes 

x x x 
 

Hi Ratbagtazbag,

You really are going through it aren't you?  I's no wonder you are scared when you have lost your mum and your aunt so recently. I lost both parents, several relatives and close friends to cancer, but my mum died 10 years before I was diagnosed.

If you have already been through all this with your mum , you will know that the outcome will depend upon the type and grade of breast cancer.It is unfortunate that your results consultation has collided with the visit to your sister. Still, it sounds as if you will still be together for Friday, the anniversary of your mum's passing. Try to be as positive as you can when telling your sister. This will make it easier for her to cope with your diagnosis.

You are right. It is alway a good idea to distract yourself from the wait by keeping busy. This doesn't always have to be with work - take yourself to the theatre, the pictures, to visit friends, etc. Steer clear of consulting Dr Google, as this will only serve to scare you even further.

This is a particularly worrying time and you will find that your emotions are all over the place. You may also be prone to crying a lot. These are unfortunately, all 'par for the course'. Once you have got your results, you will feel better regardless of the outcome.

I am hoping and praying for a good outcome for you on Thursday.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx