Good news.

it is a very worrying time.  I've got my biopsy, mammo etc this week. As single mum of 2 I'm petrified. I don't earn much money, have to work full time. I'm trying to keep my mind from racing away with what ifs. Not enjoying being in my mind just now.  Good to find this, everyone here is so strong. 

Hi Deefor,

Welcome to our forum. I am sorry to hear that you are waiting for your tests this week. Are you aware that only 1 person in every 8 referred to the breast clinic will turn out to have breast cancer, so the odds are in your favour? You will probably have to wait another 1-2 weeks before you get the results of these tests. Do you have someone that you can take with you to your appointments? This makes a big difference to have support at that time, especially if you are getting any test results.

As a single mum this brings up some extra problems for you, but try not to worry about this until you know what your diagnosis is. The enormity of the big picture is too much to cope with, so just deal with things day by day or hour by hour. It is so much easier to deal with facts rather than what ifs.

Waiting like this is always a challenge and most of us find that our emotions are all over the place. Are you finding yourself crying a lot? Even the strongest of us find that this happens to us. If it is of any consolation, it usually feels better once you get a true diagnosis. There are so many unknowns to deal with at first, so regardless of whether the results are good or bad, it is still easier to cope with once you know what you are dealing with.

What ages are your children? Do please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

I hope that all goes well for you and, that you get some heartening results in the end.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you for posting this. I had an ultrasound and biopsy yesterday and I am so scared of the result. My mum had breast cancer at 49 and now it's in my head my lump must also be cancer. I am only 30 so I know I have a better chance that it's benign then my mum but with two young children I am petrified. This post is reassuring that it may not be the worst outcome so thank you for posting 

Hi Radarfan,

Welcome to our forum. I am so sorry to hear of your symptoms, but you are doing the right thing in getting tested, even if it is so scary waiting for the results. I know how worrying this can be when your mum had breast cancer. I was in the same boat as you. I had lost my mum to secondary breast cancer 10 years before I was diagnosed.

I am more than twice your age and unfortunately, I drew a short straw and was diagnosed with breast cancer. I had a lumpectomy, followed by Tamoxifen for a year. Again, I wasn't so lucky the following year when I was diagnosed with a second primary in the same breast. This time I had a bilateral mastectomy, followed by Letrozole for 6 years. I guess that I'm now lucky, as I am still here 10 years later.

I am not a doctor, but understand that, at your age, there could be a number of other reasons for your symptoms. As I said in my post above yours, the odds are in your favour. Have you been given a date to return for your results? It usually takes 1-2 weeks for these to come through. It is always a good idea to take someone with you to your appointment, as you will find it helpful to have some support. It can also be a good idea to draw up a list of questions before your appointment. This makes sure that you don't forget anything important.

Cancer diagnosis, treatment and aftercare have all improved immensely since my mum had it. There is just no comparison between the care that my mum had and, that which I have experienced. Instead of dying with cancer, more people are now living with it. With 2 young children, this is obviously a concern for you, but I am sure that you will still be with them for many years to come.

Please let us know how your results go. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank goodness you had good news. I'm absolutely terrified. I can hardly cope, I don't know how I can make it to Thursday without a complete break down. I'm in the same situation you were in when you were waiting. I'm 47 mammogram and ultrasound looked suspicious so I had a punch biopsy (4 samples) I was basically told to expect bad news and sent away to wait.

i feel like my health has declined since then. I can barely eat it sleep, I've lost weight, short of breath etc. I was perfectly well when I went for my appointment on Thursday. The wait is torture. I have teenagers and I'm trying to act normal in front of them. My husband is being great but there's nothing he can say or do to help.

 Your message has given me a tiny bit of hope x

Hi Moll72

im so sorry to hear you're going through this horrible time. It's the most scared I had ever been, it was on my mind all the time and like you my anxiety made me a complete wreck. I would wake up in the night scared for my children, read every symptom again and again on different sites and really had resigned myself to having it. I truly believe you will be okay because as soon as you get your results you will have this awful torture over, the chances are you will be one of the many lucky ones like me but if it is the worst case scenario you will have a wonderful team of experts who can help you fight this horrible disease. My auntie has just been diagnosed and she said the waiting was the worst part now she knows she can look at how to fight it, she feels much more positive.

Nothing will take the worry away but not long to wait now, try and keep busy and I found it helpful to have someone to talk to about my fears, have you got someone who can help to reassure you?

wishing you all the luck for Thursday.

sarah

Thank you Sazcop, I'm sitting here in tears listening to my son upstairs in his bedroom playing on his Xbox. I can't help thinking that my life is going to be over. I'm really struggling today xx

Thank you Emma. Thank you so much.

Your 'please hang on to hope' comment really got me. I'm crying again but in a more positive way. I'd be absolutely over the moon if I had the same results as you.

I'm really not worried about surgery, I had a lumpectomy 17 years ago on a fibroademoma in the same breast. I will just be happy to get whatever it is out of me.  I'm not even worried about losing a breast or both breasts. I just want to carry on living my life with my husband and my children. My son will be doing his GCSEs soon and I don't want to put him through any extra stress.

I feel like everything has changed so much in 10 days from finding the lump, expecting it to be just another fibroadenoma... to now where I'm convincing myself the absolute worse case is going to happen. 
 

Thanks again. A hug would have been great 

Xx
 

I felt the same, I just thought I don't care if they have to be removed it is fine, I just wanted it over with.

The waiting is the worst, all the things they said when the biopsy was done go over and over in your head, looking for clues to what they may have seen...

I don't think they can tell anything for sure until the results are analysed, so try not to read too much into what was said, and try not to torment yourself, although I know its very hard...

Hoping so much for good news on Thurdsay for you xx