good luck with your appointment. I'm in same position I went to doctors today with some symptoms didn't think I had any lumps but doctor confirmed she found lumps this morning and sent a referral for breast clinic, they. Called me 2 hours later with appointment. So nervous but trying to stay positive. Let us know how you get on so I know what to expect at mine xx
Things happen so quickly once you are referred to the breast clinic that it is frightening, especially when you don't really know what to expect. I expect that your phone call so soon after you saw your GP was possibly to try and fit you in before the Christmas holiday, so don't read too much into it.
You will not be given a diagnosis at your first appointment. You will have a physical examination of both breasts, followed by a mammogram and/or an ultrasound, then possibly a biopsy. There will then be a wait of 1-2 weeks for your results. Most of us would agree that this is one of the scariest times of our entire cancer journey - there are so many unknowns.
It is always a good idea to take someone with you to all of your appointments if you can. It is also wise to draw up a list of questions for your consultant prior to each appointment.
Keep yourself as busy as possible, which shouldn't be hard at this time of year. Try to avoid looking at Google. If you must go on to the internet, make sure that you only look at reputable sites. Others are poorly researched and would scare the pants off you.
When is yor appointment for? Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.
I'm glad that your hubby is going with you. I am so sorry to hear about his father's diagnosis. It is hard enough to cope with one person in the family having cancer, but there are many families on this site who are coping with 2 or 3 loved ones who have it at the same time.
Assuming that you do have cancer, you will find it very helpful to involve your husband in everything to do with it from the outset. Trying to save him further heartache by keeping things from him only serves to make things worse in the long run. They say that life doesn't burden us with any more than we can cope with, but I sometimes wonder.
That having been said, I am still hoping for good news for you, so fingers crossed.
How very true Jolamine. My diagnosis was this time last year and my op was scheduled for 3rd January this year so had all the Xmas festivities knowing I had cancer.
Still had a brilliant Xmas and New Year.
On a funny note I had to go into hospital with a huge sore on my lip. Had to spend my day explaining to everyone that no, it wasn't a cold sore but I'd had to have two stitches in my bottom lip when my son in law elbowed me in the face during a VERY competitive game of 'Spoons' on New Years Eve.
Enjoy every moment everyone. Life may have changed slightly but ther's still a lot of living to do x
really can that happen it can spread by feeling too much? I've been trying to see what the go was worried about everyday I shall stop now though and just leave it to the professionals on 28th. I know jola I'm just putting all my concentration on my baby girl now and whatever happens after Christmas happens and il tackle it head on whatever the outcome. Thank you so much jola you've helped so much last few days your an angel xx
Thank you so much Mummy2myla. The prayer means a lot. It wasn’t great news today but seems to be very treatable. The experience of my lump appears to be very different to yours so don’t take my positive diagnosis as a worry. Most lumps are benign. I have a huge family history so was prepared for bad news. Thank you for your positive thoughts. Have an amazing Christmas and keep us updated xxxx
Thank you for the advice. We now have four of us in the family with cancer (me and my mum, husbands dad and his sister). Looks like 2019 will be a Rocky year but we will battle through it xxx
im so very sorry it wasn't the news you was hoping for. Stay strong and positive il keep you in my prayers I've been thinking of you all day. That's good that it is treatable so they caught it early in guessing? What is the next step for you in treatment? Thinking of you xx
I am so sorry that it was not good news today and, I am sure that you must be feeling awful at the moment. I know that I always expected cancer to stop at my door, but I was not in any way at all prepared for how I would react to my diagnosis. I cried copiously with no reason and, my emotions were all over the place. I swung between denial and disbelief for the first month and it was very surreal.
Have they told you what type of cancer you have or what grade it is and, have they decided on the best way forward for you?
You will get through this challenge and come out stronger for it.
I am so sorry that it was not good news today and, I am sure that you must be feeling awful at the moment. I know that I always expected cancer to stop at my door, but I was not in any way at all prepared for how I would react to my diagnosis. I cried copiously with no reason and, my emotions were all over the place. I swung between denial and disbelief for the first month and it was very surreal.
Have they told you what type of cancer you have or what grade it is and, have they decided on the best way forward for you?
You will get through this challenge and come out stronger for it.
i am in a state of numbness and worried about when the emotions do kick in. I sobbed when the breast care nurse mentioned talking to the children but otherwise can’t seem to find the tears. They said it’s ductal and the tumour is grade 2 but said that can’t stage properly until the surgery. Xxx
We all react differently to a positive diagnosis. The emotions will kick in soon enough, so try not to worry about not having them yet.
They will send your tissue to pathology after surgery and this will confirm your grade for certain. Have you got any dates for your MRI or surgery yet?
Did your nurse give you any useful tips for telling the children? Most people don't tell their children until they have a firm diagnosis. They don't need chapter and verse. Just a simple explanation will suffice.
