good luck with your appointment. I'm in same position I went to doctors today with some symptoms didn't think I had any lumps but doctor confirmed she found lumps this morning and sent a referral for breast clinic, they. Called me 2 hours later with appointment. So nervous but trying to stay positive. Let us know how you get on so I know what to expect at mine xx
Things happen so quickly once you are referred to the breast clinic that it is frightening, especially when you don't really know what to expect. I expect that your phone call so soon after you saw your GP was possibly to try and fit you in before the Christmas holiday, so don't read too much into it.
You will not be given a diagnosis at your first appointment. You will have a physical examination of both breasts, followed by a mammogram and/or an ultrasound, then possibly a biopsy. There will then be a wait of 1-2 weeks for your results. Most of us would agree that this is one of the scariest times of our entire cancer journey - there are so many unknowns.
It is always a good idea to take someone with you to all of your appointments if you can. It is also wise to draw up a list of questions for your consultant prior to each appointment.
Keep yourself as busy as possible, which shouldn't be hard at this time of year. Try to avoid looking at Google. If you must go on to the internet, make sure that you only look at reputable sites. Others are poorly researched and would scare the pants off you.
When is yor appointment for? Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.
Hi, thanks so much for the reply and explaining things I'm so nervous as I didn't even know I had any lumps I only went over some other symptoms with the same breast and then also the quick phone call back too.
wel that's first thing I did was google and it's frightened off even looking now which is why I came on here as I know people have been or goin the through same thing.
well they explained they had no apps before xmas but got me in for 28th decemember so although til be on the not knowing stage at least I can keep myself busy and enjoy xmas with my young daughter just incase it does turn out bad news.
So I take it you have been through this process too if you don't mind me asking how did your results turn out? Hope all is well I will let know once I have been to my appointment how everything went. Do they let you know if they think it could be cancer on the day if they see anything worrying?
We all feel shell shocked when we realize that there is a possibility of a cancer diagnosis. We also tend to think that our cancer is the worst case it can be, even though this seldom turns out to be the case.
I am glad to hear that you have stopped consulting Dr Google, as it will only serve to make you more scared than ever. You have a while to wait, but not too long considering that it is the Christmas period. What age is your daughter? I'm sure that you can indulge her and keep busy over the Festive season.
I know that this cloud will be hanging over you at Christmas and I hope that you can enjoy the break despite this.
Yes, I have been through this a few times. I initially found a lump 9 years ago and was diagnosed with mucosal cancer and had a lumpectomy, followed by Tamoxifen. I was told that I was fortunate that this was not a very aggressive type of cancer and was unlikely to spread. Unfortunately, a year later, almost to the day, I found another lump in the same breast and had a double mastectomy, followed by Letrozole for 6 years. I stopped taking these last year and now get monitored annually. I have also had a few false alarms, so I have been through this process a number of times and know just how scary it is waiting for results.
Some consultants will give you a hint that they suspect cancer, while others won't until you get the results. However, you can never be certain until your results come back.
Do please let us know how you get on on 28th. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. We are always here for you.
It’s horrible waiting over Christmas. I’ve strangely found that being at work has helped to keep my mind off things. I am also trying to focus on the children and keeping things calm for them. I get my results tomorrow. I’m not sure if I’ll sleep much tonight. I am fearing the worst due to the size of the lump and how the consultant spoke to me last week.
I just wanted to wish you all the best for tomorrow. I sincerely hope that your results are not as bleak as you have probably been expecting in the past week.
Do please take someone with you to your appointment and, draw up a list of questions for your consultant.
I just wanted to wish you all the best for tomorrow. I sincerely hope that your results are not as bleak as you have probably been expecting in the past week.
Do please take someone with you to your appointment and, draw up a list of questions for your consultant.
I'm glad that your hubby is going with you. I am so sorry to hear about his father's diagnosis. It is hard enough to cope with one person in the family having cancer, but there are many families on this site who are coping with 2 or 3 loved ones who have it at the same time.
Assuming that you do have cancer, you will find it very helpful to involve your husband in everything to do with it from the outset. Trying to save him further heartache by keeping things from him only serves to make things worse in the long run. They say that life doesn't burden us with any more than we can cope with, but I sometimes wonder.
That having been said, I am still hoping for good news for you, so fingers crossed.
Thank you for the advice. We now have four of us in the family with cancer (me and my mum, husbands dad and his sister). Looks like 2019 will be a Rocky year but we will battle through it xxx
I am so sorry that it was not good news today and, I am sure that you must be feeling awful at the moment. I know that I always expected cancer to stop at my door, but I was not in any way at all prepared for how I would react to my diagnosis. I cried copiously with no reason and, my emotions were all over the place. I swung between denial and disbelief for the first month and it was very surreal.
Have they told you what type of cancer you have or what grade it is and, have they decided on the best way forward for you?
You will get through this challenge and come out stronger for it.
i am in a state of numbness and worried about when the emotions do kick in. I sobbed when the breast care nurse mentioned talking to the children but otherwise can’t seem to find the tears. They said it’s ductal and the tumour is grade 2 but said that can’t stage properly until the surgery. Xxx
We all react differently to a positive diagnosis. The emotions will kick in soon enough, so try not to worry about not having them yet.
They will send your tissue to pathology after surgery and this will confirm your grade for certain. Have you got any dates for your MRI or surgery yet?
Did your nurse give you any useful tips for telling the children? Most people don't tell their children until they have a firm diagnosis. They don't need chapter and verse. Just a simple explanation will suffice.
