Hi! I’ve lurked and read for a few weeks but now post op I dared to register and post.

So far the waiting. The glances and things that aren’t said is the worst thing about this. 

I asked my consultant what exactly he was looking for and he said he would tell me when he needed too. That means I did a lot of googling :/ 

I just want to know... as I’m sure we all do. We're all here with you! 

Xx

Hi! I’ve lurked and read for a few weeks but now post op I dared to register and post.

So far the waiting. The glances and things that aren’t said is the worst thing about this. 

I asked my consultant what exactly he was looking for and he said he would tell me when he needed too. That means I did a lot of googling :/ 

I just want to know... as I’m sure we all do. We're all here with you! 

Xx

Thanks, it is the lack of controle, the fact we can not do anything to solve this problem without having to wait. I am going tomorrow 8:30am to receive the results of biopsy and ct scan. Part of me really needs to know and move on and do something about it but part of me does not want to know... how long do you still have to wait? Have you been diagnosed yet?

Hi! Been thinking about you today, I hope you got some answers.

I still have another week or so to wait, they said 2-3 weeks and I'm not even in a week in yet

Xx

Thanks! Had the hospital appointment and it was confirmed bc grade two but they don’t know stage yet as I have a bone scan this Friday. It is left breast plus one lymph and they worried about something showing on the ct scan in one of my spine discs but won’t k ow until bone scan done. Spent the day crying as one do and my head is numb, can’t think further than a few minutes at the time. Told everyone and that was the hardest thing but now feeling better for not being alone in this. My husband being great and my son really brave bless him. Let’s the fight commence! 

So sorry bout diagnosis ... l remember so well, the first numb feeling ... l stayed in spare bedroom and didn't come out for two days ... didn't want to speak to anyone ... but for me, that works .. I was cried out and ready to get in the ring, and take him to 13 rounds if needed .. 

So give yourself the time and feelings you need to ... the word it's self is scary ... if you feel angry, that's normal ... at first everything is overwhelming.. and like we said a lot on here.. it's like they put you on a big rollercoaster... and have no control as to when you get off ...

Now saying all that, there's lots of us here, on that same rollercoaster.. lots of different stages, but we will help you through if you want.. I'm 6 months post mastectomy.. and if I could go back in time, to the first days, I'd tell myself ... the op won't be half as bad, or painfull as you think.. and hold on tight, it's a bit of a bumpy ride, but with great family right by your side, you'll get there ... you don't realise just how strong you are , till your backs against the wall ... 

So my hunny, get your boxing gloves ready .. try not to look too far ahead ... one day, and one problem at a time ... many of us have walked your path ... and we hold on and share feelings, no matter what they are ... and we all try to kick cancers *** ... cancer wants you weak, it has no empathy ... but you can do this, one day at a time ... big hug Chrissie xx

Last 4 weeks were possibly the worse of my life with waiting and more waiting. Was told 10 days ago cancer possibly spread to bones and spend 10 days thinking that was it for me, that I would not see my son become an adult, a lot of crying. Anyway yesterday I saw the doctor and was told it is stage II and no spread. I feel I have been given another life line! I know I have a year ahead of chimio and op and so on but I am so grateful it is not worse than what it is. I sound crazy but I am happy for the first time in 4 week, I slept last night and I feel really positive I will beat this. X

Hi Ana. So sorry to hear of your diagnosis. I had my op & finished treatment in May just gone.

Yes the waiting is absolutely agonising but they need to test and look at everything so they know what they're dealing with and best way to treat so they get rid of it.

Most cancers are treatable or "livable" so rest assured now that you know what you're dealing with its onwards. You're on the radar and going to be through all this soon. Everyone reacts differently but just tackle one step at a time. You got this!

Family is there to help and lean on. I wouldn't have made it without them. I will be honest and tell you I found it tough but this forum has been great. Just remember everyone reacts differently.  Keep us posted.

Thanks for your kind words! I feel like I am more in controle now. Can’t wait for the day I am saying this is all in the past but that day is what is keeping me going forward. I know in my heart I am beating this just a bit worried about the ride I am just about to start. Xx

Hi Ana ... been a little tied up and sorry not back to you earlier ... 

So glad it's a grade 2 and not spread ... woo hoo and high 5 for that ... once the panic starts to get less, you get strength from somewhere inside that tells you, you can do this .. the treatment is not a ride in the park, but jbains is a wonderfull lass to listen too ... I've had the mastectomy, but she's had the treatment to, and she's a real trooper ... so remember your not alone, lots of us breast ladies are right here with you on this journey and when you need support weather it's a good day, or a low one, someone on here knows those feelings ... 

So hold on tight ... get your boxing gloves on and you kick cancers bum right down the road ...I'm off to hospital tomoz as my aunties having her mastectomy ....  sending you a big hug. .  Chrissie 

Hi ladies, feeling lost searching answers but reading all different posts. I went for mammogram yesterday... sent after for ultrasound then 2 biopsy’s taken. Spoke to consultant he said it shows a 4cm Mass. feeling confused does this definitely mean I have Cancer? 

OMG! You completely nailed how I am feeling. It is the lack of control, I feel I'm prepared for both good and bad news, however the unknown and waiting is driving me mad x