Hi I'm Toni 50 just found lump, waiting for biopsy n yeah solo stressed! Really need some one to chat to coz those I've told are either awkward or avoiding me, I totally understand how hard it is for them, I don't even wanna talk about it. But my first mother in law found a lump and I was pregnant, by the time I gave birth she was riddled and it had gone to her brain, my age ! I just need to chat x

Hi Toni so sorry to hear you found a lump , and worried , I'm 43 I found a lump last January , so scary , remembering all the waiting around for results , and never forget the day they told me I had grade 3 aggressive Breast cancer , big shock , but I got through it the lumpectomy , chemo , radio , smiling and being strong all the way through , I've had the all clear had my one year on check all well , here to chat if need , take care , Ali xx

Hi recentwidow,

I hope you are doing ok, dealing with your grief as well as your health problem must be so difficult for you, I truly hope you have some good family support or friends around you.  I'm not one for support groups myself but I do know that for some people they can be hugely beneficial and help with feelings of isolation and loss, maybe there might be one local to you that can help? 

I also remember sitting in the waiting room surrounded by lots of other women, some with husbands and partners and I can understand how it made you feel.  Is there someone who has been able to go with you to your appointments since this?  

I'm no bereavement expert or counsellor, but I'm guessing that you are going through lots of processes in your head, and have many difficult feelings. Just take your time and accept that it's very very normal to have these feelings, and that at some point you will find a way to live with them, you'll get there when the time is right for you.  Be kind to yourself. X

I have just come across your (sadly, many other posts) - I had my appointment at the breast clinic today, my results show changes in my right breast that might be cancerous, they want to operate possibly at the end of November to remove part of the breast that is affected and send it off for testing

my consultant says he is confident that it is not cancer, but they need to make sure........what am I to do in the meantime ? my life has been on hold these past weeks since my initial mamogram... reading other posts I feel comforted (if that is the right word) that I am not on my own.....but I feel so alone and scared, my poor little dog (Rumpole) knows something wrong and has not left my side

take care xx

I ss suffer from anxiety and panic attacks so I find may self in this predicament.sometimes believing then not .iam a nurse so I have been on the other side of this. I read the radiolagist easily .so I asked her strait up.the terror in her eyes told me what I thought I needed to know .she ran and got the doctor he told me if if that it was cancer 1 ,treatable .i felt like I had herpesvirus.i wanted out of there got my appointment and ran .out in the waiting room was my husband head in hand ,tears in his eyes he knew.i felt so bad for hurting him almost as bad as being unfaithful. So I can't talk to him kills me .so I cry in showers when I lay down .told the kids my daughters a nurse goes into the speech about what to expect.then tells me she loves me My som who is in medical school emails tears stream down my face .i have hurt all of them I don't sleep long two or three hours at a time .then I wake back to reality.i have these periods when I have to get away fright or flight ,there's no where to go. I keep busy dogs dinner dishes cleaning thing you can do on auto strange

Our results are on monday

i rang the cancer research nurses this morning and they were so good and helpful and took away so many worries I would highly recommend it

just have to convince my wife to call this afternoon!!

DID YOUR WIFE HAVE A MAMMOGRAM AND AN ULTRASOUND DONE AND A BIOPSY?

She did yes, all three.

nothing taken from the lymph nodes though which makes us a bit more hopeful

Hoping for the best for you!!

Hoping for the best for you!!

Keep at them, am sure they don't do it on purpose and they know the wait is torture though!

And thanks for the prayers too! 

If you can let us know how it went for your wife

As well as we could have hoped for really

its a normal version found in older ladies rather then an aggressive one found in younger

no treatment plan as yet though as they still need the herceptin results back to decide

we know we're not out of the woods yet though and there's still a long way to go