Hi Elm0615,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am sorry to hear that you are waiting to be seen at the breast clinic and just want to assure you that not everyone who attends the clinic gets a cancer diagnosis. It is a fact that only 20% of those who attend will get a cancer diagnosis. I know that the wait is scary and want to reassure you that the way you feel is not unusual - most of us feel the same at first. 

I am sorry to hear about your sister and can understand why this has made you feel so edgy. Unfortunately, we nearly all give rein to our over active imaginations at this stage and tend to go straight to "worst case scenario". I did, as I had previously lost my mum to secondary breast cancer. However, even with 2 diagnoses of breast cancer, within less than a year, I am fortunate to still be here 16 years on from diagnosis.

Try to keep yourself busy while you are waiting to be seen and avoid looking things up om Google. Much of the information there is poorly researched, out of date and aimed at the more spectacular cases. This won't give you any helpful answers and will only serve to scare you even further.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Heya.

A friendly hello and welcome to the forums in order to start with here. We are all here for you. You are not alone. Call the helpline on 0808 800 4040 tomorrow to talk to a nurse. I advise finding a hobby to entertain and distract yourself with. I used to try diamond art and card making as a start whilst waiting for things to occur. I also did puzzles and games too. Every week I read a new romance novel. Best wishes. 

Occasionally I studied French or wrote short poems about life on a cancer ward. If you are up and about consider fundraising and clinical trials. Ask your care team about ways to fundraise and involvement in clinical trials. Keep us updated. I know things are hard right now but they will slowly become much easier. Take up a new hobby or consider telling your story to a cancer charity that is based in England.

Macmillan are a good charity that also have an online active web forum. I’d start off there. Talk to a nurse about your concerns and feelings face to face. If you can, buy a diary. Write in it. You may want to also consider an online support group. I hope this is useful.