Melanoma scare - age 27 and so worried

hi, I’m posting on here after reading some comments from others and being very supportive. I’ve currently got a suspicious looking mole ( unsymetrical , different colours and has black spots on it)  that I’ve had for aslong as I can remember and never had it checked. Im quite a moley person I have them everywhere and never been checked for any of them. After looking tonight one is really looking like the bad images I’ve seen online and I’ve made myself so ill with anxiety over it. I think I’m posting for comfort to be honest. I’ve got a drs app tomorrow to have it checked and I know it’s going to get reffered but I just don’t know how to cope with any of it. I’ve got it into my head now that I’m going to be really poorly from this and I’m going to die young.. I have family who are supportive and my partner but they don’t seem to get how this affects me mentally. 
I’ve got really bad health anxiety - triggered as i lost my mother at 17 to triple negative breast cancer she was only 46. That’s massively made me have a severe fear of cancer. Every little symptom or illness I have I straight away think it’s cancer, even when it comes to my 3 children.. now I am sat worrying over this and can’t seem to settle.. wondering if anyone else has ever felt like me,

Rebecca x

  • Hi Rebecca, thinking of you with your Docs appointment today. 

    I understand how people don't seem to know how you are mentally affected thinking you have cancer, waiting for appointments, and trying to find a way to cope with all the horrible feelings you are going through. I have Chronic Lymphatic Leukemia, diagnosed a year and 9 months ago now, still worrying.

    One bit of advice please don't look online for any information as it's all doom and gloom online. Plus online focuses on the worst scenario's.

    The good thing is you have a family who are supportive, even though they struggle to understand how you feel?

    Not sure if you live in England (Like I do?) But if you do the NHS does a Psychiatry service if you are affected by cancer, but you don't know yet?

    I have been through hell getting diagnosed, and struggling to cope with all the journey before being diagnosed, and after. This is normal I think to worry?

    Thinking of you today with your Doctor appointment.

    Love Cathy x

  • Hi Rebecca,

    I hope your appointment goes well today & your GP can calm your fears. If they decide you need to be referred to Dermatology, it's not because they definitely think your mole is cancer - if they are unsure as to whether it's suspicious or not their guidelines say they must refer the patient - this means the expert can take a look! They may refer you to the Teledermy department where they take photos of your mole & send them through to the dermatologist to look at - Teledermy is like a Triage System. The photos are done with a special camera that shows the layers of skin below the mole & they can see if it looks normal or if it needs further investigation. You will then hear from them either to say it looks fine or with an appointment to see the consultant in person.

    If they want to see you, it's so they can examine the mole with a dermascope - a hand held microscope. If they think it looks suspicious, they will arrange for you to go back to have the mole removed for a biopsy. This is done under a local anaesthetic as a day patient. There is then a few weeks wait for the results. 

    Sometimes the fear of possible cancer & the wait for appointments & results is worse than the treatment of the cancer. If you are a naturally anxious person it may be an idea to speak to your GP who can help. My advice is to try & take one step at a time & don't let your mind jump forward to a worse case scenario because the chances of that happening are very small & you will make yourself ill with the stress. 75% of patients that are seen at Dermatology get a clean bill of health - their moles are either benign or dysplastic (aka atypical or precancerous), these moles look like ugly ducklings but haven't turned cancerous yet. The majority of the 25% that are diagnosed with melanoma are early stage which means it's been found & removed before it's grown deeper. Surgery alone treats these melanoma successfully so the chance of it having grown deep, spread & you'll die is very unlikely. There are lots of different treatments now if the melanoma has spread and these are showing great results.

    So, it's natural to be worried but try not to let it take over. Start by seeing what the GP says today & then take the next step from there. Good luck & please let us know how you've got on,

    Angie (Stage 3 melanoma patient since 2009)