Likely oral/tongue cancer - awaiting maxfax

Hello,

I am 32 and have found a ‘suspicious’ mass in my mouth, dentist immediately referred on 2ww. 

My dad died of SCC base of tongue 5 years ago and its was horrendous from start to finish, and I’m so scared this is where I’m headed. The treatments and his quality of life were terrible too. 

I have a few additional things that make me sure it’s a ‘nasty’ - lymph nodes and my folate level was checked recently and was unreadably low. 

I have 2 young kids and limited support around me. How on earth could I do treatment??

Can’t see the woods for the trees. Haven’t slept in 2 nights. Maxfax is on Wednesday. 

Any company welcome. Thank you