Two areas that scare me that i havecancer

I have two areas that i have had problems with. one is my throat, have husky voice, cant hold conversation for more than couple of mins without losing voice, swollen neck, red throat all the time, white spots etc, small lump on back of tongue, was supposed tohave had scan for the last 2 yrs, but never got one, even got told hospital dont do them unledss you are an in patient.

second area is down there, back aches all the time, constipation for along time, when i do strain to go i bleed from front, some pink spotting, pain across thast area more times than not. havent had smear for over 20 yrs, cause any penertration and i bleed, havent had sex for 15 yrs.

am scared that i have cancer in either or both areas and have a phobia of any intrusive examinations.. i am 70 and on my own since hubby died 3 yrs agoand have no one to talk to. i have a 50 yr old son here but i cantv talk to him about this.  dont know  what to do