Hello, like most people here, guess I'm scared and don't know what to do.

I've had symptoms for years, thinking back on it. Pain in my lower abdomen, increasing urination frequency, persistent loose bowels, Hormonal blood tests, colonoscopies ruled most things out and eventually told that it's just age and IBS and I need to learn to live with things. After going to the loo 10 times one night last week I contacted my GP again, who again, said it was just age and to 'drink less'. At the end of my tether, I went to private U/S provider to look at my bladder/pelvis and she found a 6x5cm mass on my left ovary, which she said she was 99% certain was a dermoid cyst, and could be responsible for all of my symptoms. 

Of course I cried, then asked if it could be cancer. She said while unlikely it CAN happen, but statistically unlikely. She because of the severity of my symptoms and now armed with scans that clearly show a growth I should get my urgent referral to the hospital. 

Spoke to my GP this morning who looked at the images and dismissed them, saying dermoid cysts are never cancer and while she was happy to refer it would be non-urgent and around a 12month wait. I got tearful and said even the tiniest chance it's cancer is enough to rule out, surely? And she called me silly for getting upset. I called back and asked for a second opinion, and instead was told they will upgrade my referral to urgent if I have elevated CA125 - fine, I'll book a blood test. The wait for that is four weeks! 

I'm so, so scared. I've had symptoms for so long now I can't help but think if it's cancer, it's surely already really advanced, so every day counts? I have a 10 year old son who I want to see grow up and suddenly there's this chance (however small) that won't happen but nobody seems to be taking my worries seriously - nor the fact that I urinate 5-6 times on a GOOD night and I'm exhausted. Apparently this is normal for a woman in her 40s.

I've started enquiring privately, at this point I'll get a loan if I need to but I'm just scared. Scared that my GP surgery has been so so dismissive. 

I guess I'm wondering what the likelihood of a dermoid cyst actually being malignant? I know they can't tell on a U/S and I need more tests, but I'm having trouble getting that. Every time I say I'm frightened and I know something is wrong I'm spoken to like I'm being neurotic. I just want to have some quality of life, and the absolute assurance that my life isn't coming to an end.