Hi, I am also waiting for biopsy result and finding it difficult to just get on with things. Keep worrying about my children mostly. Just horrible waiting. Also feeling worried, angry and guilty for feeling worried. 
I keep thinking soon will be in a position to do sornrthing about whatever the lump is- so trying to reframe it. 
what are you doing? 

Myself also worried ,it’s no point telling many people , so just few friends know , not my mom she does not know and it’s difficult to talk to her like nothing is happening

I am blaming myself for gaining weight 

I too have young boy to worry about and I am just drinking  lots of hot water / green tea to calm myself 

but it’s always there ..one person / relative I told that I had a biopsy taken has like disappeared instead of talking to me not calling me now just feel the distance ..

It’s been 5 working days since I had biopsy

may be 2 more weeks before I find out

I guess it’s normal to feel worried ..how can we stop thinking about it

Hi Lively and Oprahsjdkdj,

A very warm welcome to our forum,

I am sorry to hear that you are both waiting for the outcome of your biopsies. This is always an anxious wait and it is almost impossible to think of other distractions at this stage. Try to keep yourselves busy, which shouldn't be difficult with young children. Not all lumps are cancerous. Most turn out to be benign cysts or fibroadenoma. Of all the people who attend the breast clinic only 20% will get a cancer diagnosis, so your chances are still good.

Lively, you speak about a relative who has disappeared since you told her. Sadly, this is not unusual. Most of us experience this along our cancer journey. Some people just don't know how to handle or speak about cancer. You will find hat many who you consider friends, will disappear, but don't despair, as support will come from some of the most unexpected people and places. 

It is only natural to worry about your children - we all do! I was in the same position as both of you 16 years ago and terrified that I wouldn't see my 2 children grow up. Since then, I have see them leave school, go to university, graduate, find gainful employment, fall in love, marry and provide me with 2 precious granddaughters. I had a lumpectomy, but 6 months later was diagnosed with pre-cancerous cells in the other breast. Just under a year after my surgery, I discovered another lump in my original breast, which was also cancer. This time I had a double mastectomy. I am still living a busy and fulfilling life. Hopefully, you both will too. Please keep in touch and let us know how you both get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you , you give so much hope!

You are inspiring !

Hi Jolamine and Lively, That is an incredible and inspiring journey you have been on Jolamine. And to hear you have watched your children’s milestones that all mums wish to see,  and been through so much. I bet your grandchildren bring absolute joy! 

Lively, you have a son, and he can help to keep you busy! I have two boys, one is 17 and one is 10. I am trying to do something I have meant to do for each of them so I feel like I have accomplished something during the Big Wait. With my youngest son we went to the garden centre to repot a cactus (that had been waiting to be repotted for years!) and we did that - he chose the gravel for the top- we achieved something together. And we made party invitations last night together. 

I had my biopsy done last week and where I live it is a 7 day wait for results. Lively, I am sorry that you have a lot longer to wait, because every day is hard. It is always in the back of my mind. Or the front! 

With telling friends, I told my bf who met me for a coffee and had done a lot of research about it so was very supportive and reassuring. And I told another wonderful friend who has got stage 4 breast cancer. I know she has always found these kinds of forums helpful as she has met people in the same position as her. Because no one really knows what it feels like unless they have been there. 

its very difficult to keep up a normal demeanor when I keep thinking I might not  be here in 2 years! And everything could be the last time I  ever do it!! Completely irrational but slightly possible. Unlikely to have a ver aggressive cancer like that but possible. And it is that that is very hard to get through - the not knowing. And so not having the ability to do anything about whatever it is.

Alap coupled with the feeling that if it isn’t anything then I have just wasted a precious week worrying about something and being distracted from my children. Not feeling like a great mum as I have not been 100% present because of this worry. So I think I am angry about being worried. So bringing me back to the countdown to results being a positive day as whatever happens I will have more information and be out of this limbo. Just trying to sum up how it feels. And with a bit of mental gymnastics getting to a more positive place.

Thank you for your support on here! 

I had a call from the hospital this morning to say that there is a delay with the biopsy results because of a backlog so my appointment has been moved to Friday. So now a few more days of worry! Frustrating as had arranged childcare and partner had arranged time off work to come with. 

Ok , at least something , I don’t have appointment date given . Sorry about change in  time, with kids and work you have to arrange so many things

Yes UK myself too