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how do you explain to your husband that you haven't cheated on him , yet again my smear shows HPV and abnormal cells which means a colcoscopy again , we haven't had sex for 6 yrs , buti have had abnormal smears for past 7 yrs ,Now the problem is he has severe mental health issues and just come out with " well what's going on with your smear test , coz you clearly have a STD , and you haven't got it from me " well talk about make me feel great about myself , I even said I would get the nurse to tell him it don't mean that or that I have cheated , now with his mental health it has set him off massively,  thanks for reading this far , thanks from a very stressed wife 

  • Hello mum_of_boys,

    I'm sorry to hear how your husband's mental health has affected your relationship. It's possible that he might benefit from support and the charity Mind have some really good resources. We also have information on the Does HPV cause cancer? page our website. This includes details about how common HPV is and the many types. It is usually passed on through sex, but it's mainly through close skin-to-skin contact. It's important to keep communicating and reassuring him that you are there if he is not feeling himself. Do lean on other people close to you for advice and this forum is here for you.

    I hope your next test goes ok and don't be afraid to ask questions.

    Best wishes,

    Moderator Anastasia

  • Offline in reply to Moderator Anastasia

    he gets help from his mental health worker   my point was n is I have had it for 6 years , and now he has made me feel worthless , but thank you for yoir reply 

  • in reply to mum_of_boys

    You're welcome mum_of_boys.

    It's not nice to be accused like that and I can imagine how it must make you feel. I hope he will realise that he shouldn't behave in this way and that you both can work through this together.

    Moderator Anastasia

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