Feeling anxious while awaiting results

At the start of April, I made a GP appointment after noticing a funny-looking mole on my upper-back. He gave me an 'emergency' referral and I was seen by a dermatologist just before Easter. He recommended a full excision and I was fast-tracked (although the waiting list was still long and it took 3.5 weeks for them to see me again). I had the full excision this week, and the doctor told me to mentally prepare for it to be melanoma - she said it could be possible be a Dysplastic naevi, but that if it is, it's likely to be on the turning point of turning cancerous - at least, that's how I understood it. I've had a bad feeling about this mole from the start, so the news wasn't particularly shocking...It actually helped me feel less guilty about being worried previously - especially when so many people kept telling me it will be absolutely fine. I wanted to write here because I guess deep down I do feel really anxious. Melanoma runs in my family (as does cancer generally). I think I was surprised at how sure the doctor sounded about it being a melanoma, although she did say there's still a possibility she's wrong. I asked her if it could be at an advanced stage, and she said that would be unlikely...

Has anyone had similar experiences? It's Mental Health Awareness Week and the theme is community, so here I am - reaching out to a community

  • Hi, I am too currently awaiting biopsy results so find it helpful to be on here in what does feel like a community. It’s positive that she said it would be unlikely, do you know when your due to get any results? I’m finding it anxiety provoking also, I think that’s totally normal though and knowing you’re not alone helps 

  • Thank you for replying, and I'm really sorry you're also experiencing the waiting game. They told me 4-6 weeks which seems like a while! How about you? Yes, true - it's sad to see other people also going through the same thing, but at the same time it's powerful to have that community and not feel alone. Are you managing the anxiety OK? 

  • I had my biopsy on 7th and I have an apt for the results on 29th which came through on my nhs app, I was told up to 4 weeks. The idea of a face to face apt is making me a little anxious because they seemed so sure it was nothing to worry about but I’ve read that you can receive results in various ways so trying not to read too much into it. I feel the anxiety I am getting used to but struggling with just feeling low about it all as you feel your life’s on hold until you get the results. What about you?

  • Ah so my doctor said that I'd receive the results face-to-face too, even if they're good - apparently that's standard protocol for them. So it might mean the same for you? I know what you mean though - either way, it's an anxious time. It's a positive sign that they seemed sure it was nothing to worry about - doctors always seem so careful with their wording if it doesnt look good. The doctor who removed my mole was the first to say she didn't think it looked good - every other doctor remained very neutral (none of them said "dont worry" sadly) so I was grateful for some honesty. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling low, although that's completely normal and understandable. I'm surprising chipper and keeping spirits high for now, but I struggle at night time - I wake up and can't sleep for a while because I think about it. I guess we just need to take it step by step - we've done all the right steps and it's out of our control for now. And we are in the best hands too! 

  • They said to me it could be a phone call if benign and also can see you face to face if benign so not to panic if I do get an apt through, but of course I am. The area they took a biopsy from is a Fibroadenoma I’ve had since 2018, I wasn’t there for that but as I was there and now I’m over 30 they advised it’s procedure to biopsy for reassurance purposes so I’m hopeful that it is benign as I’ve had it checked by ultrasound 3 times now and it’s always been advised as a fibroadenoma. That’s good you are remaining positive, and that the consultant was honest with you, I have heard also that if they are generally quite direct and prepare you if needs be.