To tell, or not to tell...?

So, I haven't had my diagnosis yet but I've had blood tests and an imaging test is being scheduled, I only went to the doctor on Saturday so it all feels a bit fast. Naturally I am thinking that the speed things are happening is a bit of an indicator of what the doctor is thinking. Fingers crossed it's nothing but I have a family history of cancer (and early cancer at that), and I can't help but worry that it's my turn now.

So I'm trying to keep a brave face on but it feels really lonely, I told my partner that my change in periods and various other things could be anything from cysts to cancer so there was no point in worrying, but then I'm crying myself to sleep at night. And I dare not tell my family because it'll probably cause my mother to have the nervous breakdown she's been teetering on the edge of since my brother got thyroid cancer a couple of years ago (he's ok btw). Then if it is cancer but fixable, do I tell them at all? Or just keep it between my partner and myself? 

Has anyone just not told their family? It's tempting I'll be honest. 

  • Hi Calico.  I  waited until I got my diagnosis before I told my family that I had cancer.  I didn't see the point in worrying them if it turned out to be nothing.  It's natural for you to be worried, and crying yourself to sleep.........what you are facing is scary, but fingers crosses that it is NOT the dreaded big C.  I think that in this situation, we tend to worry about our loved ones more than ourselves........I guess it's human nature.  We want to protect the people that are dear to us.  When I got my diagnosis, my immediate thought was not to let my family know, but it was my husband who told me that they had a right to know.  Of course, ultimately, it is your decision, and you must do what you think is best.  Good luck Calico, I wish you well.