I feel your pain with this worry. I too am having tests and currently have not told my husband, children or any family.
The way I see things is that at the moment I need to get a job done and process this myself first. I don't want my parents or children to get scared. My personal plan is to wait till I know exactly what I am dealing with then I will speak to them.
So what I am trying to say is. There probably is no right or wrong way. Just do what is right for you. It's a lot to process and when you do tell your loved ones I am 100% sure they will be stronger than you think because those we love will be strong to make us stronger.
