My wife was in this situation around 3 years ago, and she just over 2 years out from treatment. They found 2 lumps, one on top of the other. At first they thought it was just the one, just weirdly shaped, but after the mri, it turned out to be 2. She too was told on the day, and was slightly blinded.

I really can't say this enough, but take someone with you, so you have a second pair of ears. It's amazing the stuff my wife missed, but luckily i was there too, so i picked more stuff up. It was like we were in 2 separate consultations.

Every niggle you get at this point, you will think the worst. That's more than normal. My wife had put her back out a week prior to her diagnosis, had a sore shoulder, had a horrid cough that i had been nagging her to go see about for months prior and she had awful fatigue running up to all this. From her initial "it looks sinister" diagnosis, to her MRI, i won't lie, i was thinking the worst. After her scans, the cough was allergies, the back was mechanical and the fatigue was stress due to her running around after her elderly parents and holding down a full time job. Yeah, my point, the human body is complex and you can have multiple things going on at once, so try not to fret over the other stuff. Easier said then done, but you'll be tense and stressed, and as such you're more like to get muscle aches during this time with that stress.

Thank you so much for this. 
Its very true, Im so unbelievably tense right now its no wonder everything aches. I keep holding my shoulders really high but cant relax enough to get them to sit normally. Im trying my best to avoid Dr Google but its so bloody hard. The community here is fantastic though, Im so beyond grateful to everyone who has responded. 
How is your wife feeling these days ProfBaw? Hope she is happy and well!!

Its the mornings right now Im finding really really difficult as my emotions are everywhere. By tea time I feel more centered and rational but mornings are just awful, has anyone else experienced this? Was there anything that helped? My GP has given diazepam but I dont want to get used to taking it so scared to even start. 

Big hugs everyone xxxx

We are thinking of going to Crete. We love it there. Just need a get away and chill.  Hopefully you'll be fine for December.  Hopefully your surgery will be only a couple of weeks after the final plan is agreed. 

Surgery recovery hasn't been as bad as I expected. You do need to do the exercises though. They are a must!  I was back to doing the school walk within 5 days. You can't lift or carry anything heavy for a number of weeks. You can't drive for 4 or more weeks.  But I'm 6 weeks post surgery and mostly back to normal now. I'm still being a little careful carrying and lifting. Xx

Aww glad you have company tomorrow, stay strong....I know what you mean about aches and pains, I'm over thinking all the time now, it's awful...I've got to wait until a week tomorrow when I go for tge magseed to go in and then pre-op. Luckily its my partners day off, so he's taking me..xx

Woo Crete is supposed to be beautiful! Yes, get away and chill after everything certainly sounds in order. Im blown away by just how fast life can turn upside down, not that I was naive to it all but at 36 I just thought it would be a cyst!. 
Im so glad your surgery recovery has been better than expected! Fingers crossed your oncgotype comes back fast and you wont require chemo so you can get away xxx

Thank you lovely. 
My sister had been amazing through this whole process, shes had my son for me and included him in activities with her children which takes the pressure off me a lot. A Magseed? Is that the titanium little chips or something different? There are so many terms for things Im only now learning xx

Apparently they make me radioactive for a short time ha ha, think it's more a dye thru put in so come the operation they go straight to it. I've already got the clips in, they did that at biopsy, swear I can feel them in bed, paranoid I am....I know, all this terminology gives me headache lol xx

Its a lot to learn isnt it!! 
Im still a bit swollen from the biopsy, the parts they took samples from are definitely more pronounced since! Im really small chested though so that may make it more noticeable again. Have you been given a Op date yet lovely? Xx

I was so bruised omg and sore. Yeah operation is 30 August and hopefully be home same day. We would normally go away on 8th September, not booked anything, but suspect I won't be going away. I've got exercises to do and must do them...never thought this would happen.....but it has and have to ride each day as it comes. I'm huffing and puffing a lot today. Just can't be arsed...urghhh.

Doesn't help with the *** weather, it's so dull and been raining....

Swelling will go down hun, I had strip plasters and they fell off after a few days...

If you go on Etsy, they have a heart shaped cushion, I got one for after my operation. It sits nicely under your armpit and stops arm resting against your boob, more for in bed I think, just a bit of comfort really. Even got 3 bra and knicker sets, without the wire in (so not me) for after op to, £20 online at M&S, not what I would usually wear, but hey think we need to get comfort in all areas LOL.

Hope you're feeling bit better than earlier hun...roll on 5pm and I'm out of work ha ha xxx

Sorry it's late, don't have to reply...just hope you are OK as was thinking about you today. Xx

Hello lovely!! 
aww thank you for thinking of me. Touch wood the CT went real quickly. No idea on the results but my appointment was 9:40 and by 10:05 I was back sat in my sisters car. Hope your day has been well lovely and you have a nice restful weekend xxx

Aww good to hear and you sound a little upbeat, brilliant. Yep work was ok, currently in bed reading lol, have a restful weekend to hun, sleep well...xxx

Aww good to hear and you sound a little upbeat, brilliant. Yep work was ok, currently in bed reading lol, have a restful weekend to hun, sleep well...xxx