Coping with the wait!

Hi, just wondering how anyone else has been able to cope with waiting for test results.  Have been told I have cancer but waiting for biopsy results to determine whether it's lymphoma and if so what type.  The waiting is so frustrating and upsetting and I feel like I'm on an emotional rollercoaster.  I try to keep myself busy and to avoid researching - although that's quite difficult at times.  Sometimes it's hard to stop my mind wandering to worse case scenario.  I'm sure that there are lots of you in the same position and wondered if you chould share how you are dealing withi it, or just confirm that what I'm going through is perfectly normal :)

  • Hi the two week wait rule is the pathway that the NHS follow when any referral is made that is suspected to be cancer.  There are targets and datelined for commencement of treatment also.  I just trust that they are moving as quickly as they can and that all will be good.  Take care x

  • Hi yes the waiting seems to go on forever. My biopsy had to go for further testing and it's been almost five weeks now x hoping results are back this week. 

    Stay strong of mind and focus on positive thoughts xx

  • Hi yes we are all on an emotional rollercoaster and I like you find myself thinking really positive and then worrying why the results are taking so long which can only mean bad news.  I'm really trying to focus on what I do know rather than making up what I don't x hopefully we will all know soon and then we can get on with treatment and recovery x love and prayers xx

  • Hope you get your results soon. Hopefully will be easier when we know what we are dealing with and have a plan. Also need to focus on what I know not my worst fears! Sending love and positivity x

  • Thanks Anniedee, I’m in Scotland so wasn’t sure if this applies here but think they have similar. I do feel they are moving fast only told on the 19/2/24 that they found a cancer, already had CT/MRI and seeing surgeon tomorrow for biopsy results, awaiting a PET scan as well. I’m similar to you in that I just want to know what the treatment plan is and when it will get started. Then I tell myself to be patient and enjoy the relative normally of life just now before having to deal with side effects etc, it hard  as one’s mind races at times. My new mantra is ‘stay strong keep positive I can do this!’ 
    Wishing everyone best wishes for positive news. 

  • Appreciate your reply Annie Dee.

    We are blessed to have caring friends and family and all the other good things in our lives.

    It was your first posting that prompted me to send my initial reply on this thread. Thank you.

    Love to you x

  • It's nice to have somewhere to share thoughts and worries xx fingers crossed for speedy and positive outcomes for all and hopefully not suffering too much with symptoms x  my daughter sent me a message when I was first diagnosed that has really stuck with me ..."you have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved" not sure if it will help you and others but I think it might resonate a little.  Have confidence in your own inner strength and ability to overcome xx love to all x

  • That is a lovely phrase and very motivational. I am just trying to stay positive and think that there will be the help there if needed. These pages are so good to share our feelings x

  • Hi everyone, I am new to this - a little about why I have joined this chat... My Mother in Law was confirmed as having Stage 4 lung cancer 4 weeks ago - we have since had it confirmed it is also in her liver, bones and brain. We have gone from 4 weeks ago to knowing nothing other than she had a painful arm to this heart breaking news. A biopsy was taken just under 2 weeks ago and we are still waiting for the results. I guess I am just looking to know if anyone has any suggestions for me to help support my family at this time - my mother in law, father in law and husband. The waiting is just awful. 

  • Oh my x I can't imagine what you and your family must be going through.  I really don't know what to say other than hoping that the results come through promptly so that you can be informed of next steps.  My advice would be for you and your family to be there for each other and it sounds like you are pretty close so that won't be anything new.  Let your family members talk when they want to but don't worry if they don't.  Everyone deals with things in their own way.  Try not to do too much research from unverified sources as that often doesn't help either.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family xx