Hello Andrew

I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad's diagnosis and the decline that you've seen in his health over the past few months. It's understandable that you have concerns about this. 

Was your Dad given details of a clinical nurse specialist that you could contact for advice and support? If so then I'd suggest giving them a ring and updating them. How is your Dad getting on with the shakes that he's been prescribed? 

Unfortunately, it's not uncommon for doctors to not have a full and up-to-date picture of a patient's day-to-day health particularly when things are changing fairly rapidly and especially if your Dad is seeing different doctors as part of the diagnostic process. 

If you've not been allocated a nurse that you can contact in the meantime then don't be afraid to speak up at the appointment on Wednesday and let the team know how much your Dad has deteriorated. Hopefully they will be able to give you some advice and support. 

If you want to talk things through with one of our nurses you're welcome to call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm. 

Let us know how you get on next week. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Hi Jenn, thanks so much for your reply.

My Dad has been doing pretty well since I first posted.  He is enjoying the shakes, eating better and is seems able to manage the problems he is having with feeling so bloated most of the time.  We haven't been assigned a nurse but I will definitely take your advice and ask about it during Wednesday's appointment.

I still have a great deal of anxiety over what we may find out in the coming days and weeks but I've also managed to clear my mind somewhat since the other day.  As you know the speed at which things happen is so concerning and you're hoping that the situation isn't getting worse while you're having to wait.  Having read about other people's experiences on here has helped because I see that my Dad's situation is not unique.

This is my first real exposure to this terrible disease and the uncertainties that come along with it and I've been completely caught off-guard I suppose.  I really appreciate you taking the time to reply and I will indeed let you know when we get some further news.

Thanks once again and take care.

Andrew

Please can anyone advise me on this situation.

Three weeks ago on Wednesday gone my father was due to have his biopsy.  As he was sat on the trolley waiting to go in he was told they would not be going ahead with the procedure because The Christie in Manchester were now involved.

Since then we have had no information regarding his treatment.  We have been in touch with his GP and the gastro consultant's secretary who have both told us that his case is due to be discussed at the MDT.  This has been the case for three weeks now.  Is this normal, or at least to be expected given the current funding provided to the NHS?

I'm torn between being patient and worrying whether his case has somehow managed to slip between the cracks given that more than one hospital are involved.  The lack of communication is hard to come to terms with.

Many thanks to anyone who can help.

Andrew