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Referred for a 2 week appointment to Dermatologist

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Hi, I (30M) noticed a weird spot on the top of my back a few months ago and after keeping an eye on it for a while I decided a week ago that I should go get it checked. I sent pictures to my GP, who called me in for an appointment a few days later. I had that appointment yesterday and after showing them a few spots/moles I was worried about, they said 2 looked ok but they were going to refer me on the 2 week urgent appointment for cancer route for one of them as the mole has some weird colouring in it and is 6mm across.

Obviously I know this is standard procedure and it's most likely nothing to worry about, but I have a 2 year old at home and my mind has gone to all sorts of places. I don't generally suffer from anxiety on a day to day basis but when things happen I am the type of person who immediately becomes negative and starts preparing for the worst. I'm going through moments of feeling ok and thinking it'll be nothing to worry about and moments where I'm in tears worrying and thinking of silly scenarios in my head if it goes bad.

Has anyone got any tips on how to calm yourself and think positively? My Fiance is going on holiday with her friend tomorrow until Tuesday, so the next 4 days it's just me and my daughter which will keep me busy. but I know there's going to be moments I'll look at her and just get upset. 

Also, my partner suffers with severe anxiety and depression, and I want to be strong for both of our sakes, if she sees me worried and scared then it'll make her really bad.

Thanks in advance to anyone who replies or has any advice, I know I'm probably just being silly as it's only a referral at this point, but I don't really have any friends to vent this to and get my feelings out.

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    Thank you to Lucie and Angie whose comments were very helpful and helped put my mind at ease, I managed to largely put it out of my mind after a couple of days worrying but have just contacted the Hospital as it's been over a week since my referral and I was told to call them if I hadn't heard within 5 working days. I was told that they're actually running at a 6 week wait time at the moment because they're so busy, they said to expect to get a call in 4 - 5 weeks. This has triggered my anxiety again and made me very worried that it could be left 3x longer than what is recommended for a so called "urgent referral".

    I'm debating going private for an initial assessment just to at least get some clarity and hopefully put my mind at ease but I was wondering before I do that, does anybody know whether a consultant would have looked at the pictures sent by GP and decided I can go to the back of the list as it doesn't look that bad? Or is it a 6 week wait time before anyone even looks at anything? If it's the latter I'll probably go private for a consultation just to know what it is as I don't know if my nerves can take 6 weeks without having a clue what is going on.

    Thank you.

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    Thank you to Lucie and Angie whose comments were very helpful and helped put my mind at ease, I managed to largely put it out of my mind after a couple of days worrying but have just contacted the Hospital as it's been over a week since my referral and I was told to call them if I hadn't heard within 5 working days. I was told that they're actually running at a 6 week wait time at the moment because they're so busy, they said to expect to get a call in 4 - 5 weeks. This has triggered my anxiety again and made me very worried that it could be left 3x longer than what is recommended for a so called "urgent referral".

    I'm debating going private for an initial assessment just to at least get some clarity and hopefully put my mind at ease but I was wondering before I do that, does anybody know whether a consultant would have looked at the pictures sent by GP and decided I can go to the back of the list as it doesn't look that bad? Or is it a 6 week wait time before anyone even looks at anything? If it's the latter I'll probably go private for a consultation just to know what it is as I don't know if my nerves can take 6 weeks without having a clue what is going on.

    Thank you.

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