Melanoma or something else?

Hi everyone, feeling down and out at the moment. Saw a dermatologist yesterday for a dark mole on my arm. He took one look through the scope and said "yes it needs to go".

I've looked back through pictures and the earliest I can seem to find it is March (maybe January) but it just looked completely different to all my other moles (Doctor stated I appeared to be 'moley') so went to get it checked.

It's 2mm x 2mm and I heard him mention a starbursts pattern when taking recorded notes. He did say it could be dysplastic or spitz but he seemed fairly quick to decide it needed to be removed.

Just really worried. And to add to the pressure and worry, we're meant to be going on holiday a week Tuesday - booked in 2019 with my parents who live abroad. Travel company going bust, Covid and now this I just feel like it's cursed, and I don't want to let my family down and lose lots of money for them or us. I'm thinking of telling them to go without me. Trying to get me in next week but the next elective date is 5th June. Doctor wouldn't advise either way - I asked about cancelling and he said I need to think of my mental health and how would I feel if I cancel and it comes back benign? He did say he thinks it's low risk but I'm 
scared and don't know what to do about the mole, the holiday and trying to keep it together for my wife and kids.

Thanks for reading 

  • Hi Matt,

    Only you know how you can deal with cancelling or delaying the removal of the mole. Personally, I left mine for a year before seeing a doctor and having it removed. It was an early stage melanoma which, in 97% of patients, is great news as it is cured with surgery. Unfortunately I was in the 3% of those that it spreads, albeit very slowly in my case, so I've been a Stage 3 patient since 2009.

    If I'd known then what I know now, I would have sought help quicker. However, the wait of a few weeks is going to make little or no difference to any change in a melanoma. I don't know how long your holiday is but, if they can't fit you in before your holiday, I would schedule it for your return and try not to worry about it whilst away. I was diagnosed Stage 3 the day before a 3 week  holiday abroad. They couldn't do my surgery for 3 weeks anyway so I continued with my holiday and had my surgery a few days after my return. Yes, it played on my mind but I was distracted from the stress of sitting in my own four walls for 4 weeks.

    Good luck with whatever you choose to do - I hope you go and manage to have a lovely holiday and that the surgery brings good results. Please let us know how you get on.

    Angie

  • Thank you so much for your reassuring words. We fly out on the 24th May and return on the 15th June and if they can't get me in beforehand the next available surgery date would be 12 days into the holiday anyway. I'd rather not have it hanging over me whilst away but being with my family and enjoying ourselves will be a welcome distraction I think.