Worrying myself sick

I have my breast clinic referral on Tuesday afternoon and I am worrying myself to the point of panic attacks over it. 
 

I have so far had blood results back which didn't show any inflammatory markers, and everything else was fine, but I know that a clear blood test doesn't equal no cancer. I'm 32 and mum to two boys, which is making the fear of death feel incredibly real. 

My only symptom is pain in my armpit, deep inside and more so when pressed, which has now spread in the last 24 hours to my back too. I'm terrified it's my lymph nodes and that I've got some sort of advanced cancer that is spreading through my body. I've just finished having a horrendous panic attack and my body is in overdrive with shaking, nausea etc. 

I honestly don't know how I'm going to get through the next few days before my appointment, and i'm convinced anyway that I'm going to get the news I fear the worst. :confused:

  • Hi Missdvl,

    Bless you, it's a horrible feeling I remember all too well. The symptoms you're describing don't sound like cancer to me, you could just have some inflammation. Your heightened anxiety is probably making things feel worse, plus you're probably poking and prodding! Only two out of ten referrals to the breast clinic end up being  cancer, so hold that thought. I was one of the unlucky ones who did have cancer but I'm fine now. Even if your worst fears were confirmed, there is so much treatment available these days, it's not a death sentence. At the moment, the waiting is causing the anxiety, not knowing is the worst! Once you've been seen on Tuesday, hopefully you'll be reassured. The people at the breast clinic deal with this day in day out and they're amazing! Honestly, you'll be fine. Please come back and let us know how you get on. 

    Big loves 

    Jane x

  • Thanks for the reply Jane, I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis but glad you are doing well now. 
     

    I guess my biggest worry is that if it's been there for a long time and I've not known about it until it's too late...I keep thinking back to people like Jade Goody and Sarah Harding and thinking, if it can happen to them, it can happen to me :( And the location of my pain seeming to be in the lymph node areas scares the hell out of me. 
     

  • It could happen to anyone but the chances are very very small. It's scary, I'm not gonna lie but by far the worst part is not knowing. Most of the people on here will agree that waiting for tests and results is horrible and your mind runs riot. Try and stay occupied until Tuesday, it'll come soon enough.

    Take care xx

  • Hi, I'm so sorry for what you are experiencing right now. I was in your shoes last year after finding a lump. I developed twinges and pains in every conceivable part of my body and convinced myself that I had cancer that had spread all over and I was not going to see my grandchildren grow up. I did get a diagnosis and it had spread to my lymph nodes, but fast forward 8 months and there is no evidence of disease anymore having had a course of chemo and surgery. Yes, the fear of the unknown can be debilitating and your mind does go to the darkest places. But most referrals turn out not to be cancer, and for those that do, there are very effective treatments now, as I can testify. Pain in your armpit or an enlarged lymph node may be something as innocuous as an infection. So I do hope you'll be encouraged by the responses here. Try to find ways to relax, keep busy, do fun things with your family and friends, etc. I'm saying a prayer for you and hope you'll come back and let us know how you get on. In the meantime, we're all here if you need a chat. Love, Amy x

  • I've woken up feeling worse than ever, haven't eaten since yesterday lunchtime and feel sick as anything. My husband has offered to pay for a private ultrasound for tomorrow morning, I literally cannot wait another day feeling like this. Off to London we go tomorrow and I'll report back with the outcome, good or bad x

  • Oh bless you.   I had a mammogram ( my first one ever). In January.   I was told the lump was so deep I'd never have felt it.   Had surgery February and radiotherapy last month. Slowly recovering now.  Thank goodness for mammograms. X. It's the waiting that's the worst. But think of the things they can do nowadays.   Not like years ago xxx

  • We all understand how you're feeling. Anxiety like that is literally debilitating and you're trapped in it until you know. Good on hubby for doing that for you, I'd have snatched his hand off 18months ago when it was me going through it. I hope everything goes ok, we'll be thinking of you xx

  • Thinking of you today for your ultrasound xx

  • Thank you all so much for your kind words and positive thoughts - I had my ultrasound done by the most wonderfully reassuring consultants and they both confirmed there was nothing of concern to be found I am so overwhelmed with relief, I can finally eat and sleep again.
     

    This forum has been incredible for support during a really anxious time, I'm so glad it exists and I hope not to have to come back in the future, but if I do I know I'll have some wonderful kind people around me. Wishing you all the best and lots of positive health vibes your ways xx