Hello Julianna82 and a warm welcome to Cancer Chat, 

I am so sorry you lost your dad only 3 years ago and it's normal that this having affected you so much you are now worried about your mum. It's good that your mum communicated clearly with you and your two siblings and told you she is having these tests even though you are all feeling in limbo at the moment. Your mum did well to mention all her symptoms to her GP especially given her family history. All you can do for now is go through this long process of waiting for a diagnosis which can be an extremely anxious time for you, your mum and all your family. It's best if you can to avoid looking things up online as it will inevitably give you the worst case scenario and make you worry even more when there are so many other conditions which could be causing these symptoms. Keep busy and distracted if you can while you are waiting to find out more and there are helpful tips on this page to help you all cope while waiting for important news. 

It's normal to be feeling scared at the moment but rest assured you are not alone, as there are so many members of our community who have been through all these tests before and I hope that they will be along shortly to share their story with you. 

We're thinking of you during this difficult time and we keep everything crossed for your mum that it all turns out to be nothing of concern. Keep us updated if you get a chance as to what you find out.

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Bless you you describe it beautifully and what a lovely loving family. Thank you for your post..., when do you think we should tell our adult children? When we know for sure what's happening? My son has dreadful addictions..   if I tell him will it make him worse? Like you he lost his dad recently poor lad I don't have diagnosis yet but when the doc found the mass she went pale