Hi All 

I have had lumps in my breasts for a number of years, one was biopsied years ago and diagnosed as fibroadenoma. Recently I had grown concerned that the lump had changed significantly, I felt that there were more than one lump and the biggest lump I could see from the outside and could see through my clothing, so I went back to my GP. They referred me to the breast clinic, I spoke with a lovely doctor who could see how big it had gotten when she examined me and advised me that it was probably still fibroadenoma but I would have another ultrasound to be sure. I told her how much it is bothering me and she advised that I would likely have the big one removed. The radiologist decided that she wanted to perform biopsies as there were now 5 lumps and one was quite big, as I'd had previous biopsy she wanted to wait until the doctors had their meeting so they could compare my previous biopsy and she wouldn't be covering old ground, she also told me that I would probably have the large one removed as it was big enough within their guidelines to be taken out. 

I then went for my biopsies and they decided to take biopsies from 3 of the lumps, again at this appointment I was told that they would most definitely remove the biggest lump even though if it was fibroadenoma, which they were sure it would be. I was booked in an appointment for a week's time for the results. 

I was worrying all week thinking the worst and beating myself up because it had been bothering me some time before I went back to my GP. I saw a consultant, who instantly seemed standoffish with me, there were also a nurse and a student nurse in the room, I wasn't asked if it was ok the student nurse was there (I would have said yes, but I know from going to various other appointments they always ask if it's ok if the student nurse can be present). I was also on my own at the appointment. The consultant did not introduce himself to me he was just flipping through my notes in silence, he didn't turn to face me at all, he told me that it was fibroadenoma, he then said that I had expressed interest in having them removed, he said they would only possibly remove the biggest lump. I said that I had been told at my previous appointments that the biggest lump would be removed, he then started telling me that I could be left with bad scarring, that my implant could become infected (I had private breast enlargement over 6 years ago) and I would then be 'lopsided for 3 months' as I'd lose the implant. He then said he would 'have a look at me anyway', so I went to get changed behind the curtain, he examined me and then repeated his previous points about me having bad scarring and that I might lose my implant, I told him that I would still like to proceed with the surgery, as everyone prior to this told me I would be better getting it removed. He then left me behind the curtain and said 'you will get a letter in the new year goodbye' and walked out of the room. He didn't ask me if I had any questions, didn't tell me how the surgery would actually be performed, how long the potential wait is, nothing, just walked out of the room. I was quite shocked as the nurse had also left the room, the only person left with me was the student nurse who asked if I was ok, she was a little confused as she asked me to stay in the room as she was sure someone would be coming back to speak to me again, although she returned and said I could leave.

Once I'd got out of the hospital I burst into tears, I feel like I was an inconvience to him and he couldn't wait to get rid of me. I had no opportunity to ask any questions. He didn't properly explain the risks, it seemed like he was more using them as scare tactics. And I'm really confused now as to what to do, I told a family member about it and they have told me to complain to PALS. I really do not want to see that consultant again and I'm worried that he will end up doing my surgery and to be honest I wouldn't trust him with it. 

Sorry if this is the wrong place to post, I'm just really upset about it all. I haven't even been given any advise in terms of monitoring my boob in the long term, what happens if I find new lumps or anything.