I'm drowning whilst waiting for another biopsy on Thyroid

Hi 

So awaiting another biopsy on my thyroid but I'm drowning in life, since I've heard I physically cannot get myself out of bed the fact my boys may end up without me, this whole 2 week waiting at every step, my husband has had to do everything for our boys whilst I sit in bed in tears I'm such an anxious person anyway, its u4 nodules so tbh not looking the best. 

I'm scared that there is something in there that could be killing me, I haven't slept or eaten in days, I'm really trying to be postive but what if this is spread everywhere :neutral: I've got myself in such a hard mindset I'm usually so upbeat, and love being around my boys I'm worried for them. 

are these thoughts part of it? Wondering if its spread I see people battling cancer who is more upbeat than me. 

I just feel broken, I am making myself ill but I cannot get out of this, days in bed, drinking water and so disconnected from life. 

I'm weak, drained and no idea what's coming! Whilst I am sick of the " good cancer" to get I didnt want any cancer, I want to watch my kids grow up. 

Did anyone else get these feelings? Or am I doomed? 

  • Hello Kmc2303

    I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling so much at the moment. I think that many of our forum members will understand the fear and feelings of "but what if" that come after a cancer diagnosis. The unknown can be a scary prospect to face. 

    You mention in your post that you already struggle with anxiety. It sounds like it's going to be important that you get support from your GP during this time so please get in touch with them. 

    If you'd like to chat things through with one of our nurses you're welcome to call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm. I'm sure they will be happy to offer any support and reassurance they can. 

    I hope that things improve for you soon. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

  • Even if it is thyroid cancer, it is very unlikely to kill you. No, cancer is never "good". Nobody wants to have any form, but at least with thyroid cancer, you are almost certainly not going to die and you are highly unlikely to need anything like chemotherapy or radiotherapy. 

    Even if it is cancer, it's not likely to prevent you from seeing your children grow up.

    I think it is normal to be freaking out. Especially when it seems to be dragging on. When I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, I did have thoughts like "but what if I am in that 1% to 4% who have spread?", "what if something goes wrong in the operation and I have ongoing effects?" "what if I am one of those people for whom it takes months or years to get the medication right and I am feeling unwell on and off for all that time?" While all those things are unlikely (OK, the last was probably more possible than the others; it's something that happens to a noticable minority of people as opposed to being possible but highly unlikely), it's hard not to think "well, it's a minority that get diagnosed with this at all, so how can I be sure I won't be in other minorities as well?"

    I think a lot of people are more worried than they let people know. People often show their more upbeat side to the world.

    I also think that sometimes the waiting to hear can be the worst part. Even if you do have cancer, it might be less stressful to hear what the treatment is. And of course, you might not have cancer at all.

    I definitely wouldn't say thyroid cancer is "good," but my experience was more like having say your appendix removed than it was like how I would have imagined cancer to be. Still really worrying but it was possible to cope with.

  • I'm going through the very same issue with the addition of breathlessness and heart palpitations, I'm so poorly and fed up, my boyfriend even has to wash and dry my hair for me. My son has had to go stay at his dad's because I can't fully look after him. I'm really struggling and so scared! Message me if you want to chat x

  • Ahhhh no way. 

     

    How do you message? Xx

  • Hi Kmc, 

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    If you have any problems, just give us a shout and we'll pop by to help :happy:

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator