How to deal with waiting

Hi,

my mum (60) is waiting for results of her tumor and mass to see if it's cancer. It's been just over two weeks since all tests were completed. I am meant to be going to london for a week now and I (daughter aged 24) wanted to cancel going as I'm so worried and I want to be there for my mum who only has my dad and her parents around who are also Ill. she told me not to cancel and that it would make her happiest to go. My issue is I think she won't tell me if she's diagnosed and I think she's so worried that she needs people around her. What do you think is the best thing for me to do. When I message her asking if she's okay and double checking dad says it worries her that I'm worrying about her. So I'm not going to but also I want to be there for her. If anyone has any advice on how to handle this.

  • Hi there,

    I can understand this is a difficult situation. You may have already made your decision by now, but I wanted to send a reply as it's been a little while since you posted.

    I'm not sure of your reasons for going to London so it's difficult to advise, but it sounds like it would be OK to go, and you can of course keep in touch with your mum along the way if you would like to, as well as catching up with her when you're back. I'm sure she very much appreciates knowing you are there for support and that you're thinking about her.

    I hope you're able to come do a decision that you feel comfortable with.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Thank you so much for your reply. I really appreciate it