34, breast lump, scared

I have already posted before, my appointment is Friday at the clinic. Its been a long 2 weeks. 

I have had ups and downs. I look at my kids and cry. Have moments where I say I am 34, I am too young. But understand Cancer does not discriminate. I understand my lump may be nothing but I am honestly so scared. I know treatments at available but it's this unknown that is killing me. 

 

I know so many go through this. I just fear if it is cancer Its spread and nothing can be done. So much anxiety going through my head. I just cuddle my baby fearing I won't see her grow up. 

 

I am sorry to ramble on, but as time draws near I am becoming more scared again and the whole what will be will be attitude is starting to scare me now. 

 

 

  • Hello Thisisme273

    How are you doing today?

    This waiting is honestly awful and there is nothing anyone can do or say that will take your mind off it. I completely understand how you are feeling as I was exactly the same, the kids were my main worry. I literally wrote the days in a list just so I could tick them off. I'm still doing the same now awaiting biopsy results following surgery.

    Do you have someone going with you on Friday? 

    Will be thinking of you

    X

  • Hello thank you for getting back to me. 

     

    My husband is attending with me, as I honestly couldn't go alone as I think I will be very emotional through fear the whole time. I am hoping they can see what it is through an ultrasound or mammogram without biopsy so I don't have a longer wait, but I understand they may do this to deffo rule things out. 

    I have better good and bad moments. I have been trying to keep myself busy but then my mind goes back to it and I start to well up and cry. I am trying to stay strong for my kids, my youngest is 10 months old so her wee smile keeps me going.  Before I had my daughter I had 4 miscarriages so I am hoping in a sense it's totally hormone related due to the changes my body would have went through. This is the route I am trying to stay positive with. I know what will be will be, but like us all I don't want it to be :( sorry to keep rambling. As it all draws closer I am just getting worse with anxiety:( 

  • You're not rambling so please don't apologise, honestly this place was my go to whilst I was waiting on appointments and biopsy so you're safe and not alone.

     

    So sorry to hearvyou have been through so much, and I think as you say especially having a 10 month old this could well be reason for change in your body.

    Glad you have your husband with you Friday, mine has been an absolute rock. I do worry about him though as men are not as good at opening up as us. How is he doing? 

    The anxiety will go when you know what's going on. Binge watching box sets helped pass time but not take my mind off it. We will be watching The Crown tonight again just to pass time whilst I wait for the next part of my journey. 

    X

  • My husband is being positive for me but I think he will be worried deep down as I am the person who does alot etc 

    I wish you luck on the next part of your journey. I will certainly update once I know, as I have say alot of posts similar to mine but sadly only see updates that aren't as positive. So I think if my outcome is positive I want to let people know as may help another. 

     

    I will be glad when Friday Is over and I know either way what direction everything can be going in xx

  • Please let us know how Friday goes. I have breast clinic next Thursday, I'm 33 with 2 kids so super nervous and scared.xx

  • I will certainly let you know how it goes. I hope your doing OK, the wait for very hard :( 

  • All the best for you appointment today, will be thinking of you x

  • Thank you. I am honestly so scared and nervous this morning. Didn't sleep at all. Keep looking at my kids and crying. I don't want to go, as I am so scared but I need to know what it is. And praying my gp thinks what she felt is what it is. 

    I will update once I am out:( 

  • What you are feeling is totally normal lovely. I went to pieces in the waiting room, felt like my heart was racing and couldn't breathe. 

    What time is your appointment? Make sure that whatever the result, you try and take some time after to digest and reflect. Go for a cuppa and come back down to earth.

    We went straight on the school run after and wish that we hadn't as I felt all over the place and couldn't talk around the kids.

    X

  • It's at 9.20 so it is soon. Just want to sit and cry at the moment.  I really hope it can say all is ok after it xx