Scared and alone

Hi, 

y'day i attended the breast clinic for what my GP decribed as a precaution so i wasent overly worried. 

The consultant who examined me said that she couldn't feel anything in the boob i was referred for but had felt somthing in my right boob she wanted checked. 
i had a mamogram which was clear but the ultrasound did show a lump that the radiographer made it clear she was worried about. I got  3 biopsies taken and a marker inserted. 
 

i spoke to the consultant afterwards who says they are not sure what it is, the radiographer is concerned but there doesnt seem to be other factors so they are unsure at this point. She said its not in lymph nodes and the rest of the breast tissue is clear so isolated to this one lump which is 10mm in size. 

i will need to wait 2 weeks for results/next steps/ treatment plan, I feel completely blindsided and terrified and flip between real panic and floods of tears. i just feel scared and alone. I live on my own. I dont want to burden my parents or my sister as i know they would be equally be upset and scared. 

I dont know much about breast cancer/cancer and I dont want to start googling but i want to try and prepare myself for the likely outcome of cancer. 

Any advice or similar experiences woukd be greatly appreciated. 
 

thanks

Kat x 

 

  • Hi Kat 

    my first appointment I was told it looked suspicious and told results in one week , the worry that week killed me I no it's hard keep busy tey not to worry to much it could be all ok xx  I was told BC after a week try and chase after a week 2 weeks is a long time hun xx

  • Hi Kat, 

     

    We are in the same position! I went for my referral yesterday. The surgeon couldn't feel anything, but the lady doing the ultra sound did. She said it was presenting like fat necrosis but after the US she wasn't sure. So now the very long wait until 3rd when I get the results.

    I asked if she thought I should be worried and she said she was on the fence as the picture and biopsy didn't match (she was expecting the biopsy to have blood).

    The wait is awful. I'm the same, one min OK, the next in tears. Try to stay strong. Lots of ladies with lumps have positive results. And if the results aren't what either of us want, we are in the system and they will make a treatment plan. 

    Here if you want to talk. Xx

     

  • Thank you so much for replying laraj.

    Im so sorry you didnt get the news you wanted. How are you feeling after getting the confirmed diagnosis? 

    My consultant said they review all biopsies every Friday at MCT meeting so because it was just taken y'day (wednesday) it wouldnt make this weeks meeting and would need to be carried over to next Friday ️

    Im trying to prepare myself for the worst as they instructed but it just doesnt feel real. Im getting waves of anxiety i just want to know the extent of what im dealing with but i know thats probably how everyone in ths situation feels. 

    thanks again for replying xx



     

  • Hi Toni, 

    Thank you so much for replying. 

    Im sorry you are going through this too.

    I was so unprepared y'day as it was just a precautionary appointment. Im now terrified thinking the absolute worst case scenario. I dont have a date yet. I will get a call next Friday with a date. 

    I dont know about you but i didnt sleep a wink last night which also isnt helping my state of mind. 

    Im trying to be positive in that there is so much they can do now its just the waiting and not knowing. 

    Have you got a good support system? Xx 

  • Hi Kat, 

    It's not a nice place to be at all. I waited 10 days for my referral appointment so this wait feels like forever also! 

     

    Try not to panic too much. I know it's hard, but it's a case of controlling the controllables at this point! Think of the positives... You've been referred, your in the system, you're doing something about it! Until you know what you are dealing with, you can't do anything more. I just keep trying to think positively. Super hard though when I get chance to sit and think.

    I do have a good network. I have my husband and 3 little ones at home. My mum and dad know too, plus a few colleagues and close friends. If you feel you can, do try to reach out to a few people close to you. Yes they will worry, but it's also someone for you to have a rant at when things are tough. If you can't confide in anyone close, I think there's a number on this page to speak to an expert.

     

    I'm so sorry you are waiting too. Hopefully you will get your appointment soon.

     

    Xx

  • You are totally right and i do feel kinda lucky that it was found by the consultant as i didnt feel it and it would have prob gone unnoticed for some time. 

    I am really pleased you have got a good support system makes all the difference. I have told a few friends and spoke with a colleague today who was diagnosed last year, which helped. My family have been great, i just know they are worried too but i need to lean into that as they want to help, 

    I wish you all the luck in the world with your results. Il be thinking of you on the 4th. 
    Let me know how you get on and il let you know my outcome. 

    thanks again for reaching out xxx 
     

     

     

  • Hi Toni, 

    I hope you are doing ok 

    I just wanted to pop on and wish you the best of luck with your results tomorrow. Il be thinking if you. 
     

    I get my results Tuesday morning
     

    take care xx 

  • Hi, 

     

    Thank you so much for thinking of me. I've been OK the last couple of days and just trying to think what will be will be. Today is a different story though. I have a dull ache under my armpit and I cant shake the feeling that there's some bad news coming tomorrow.

    I'll be thinking of you on Tuesday and I'm hoping you get some good news. Let me know how you get on. X

  • Yeh ive been ok too actually. Work was a great distraction.
    Been very anxious this w/end tho and dreading Tuesday but i just have to face into it - no other choice.

    Thank you for your best wishes.

    Keeping everything crossed for you xx 
     

  • Good luck girlies for your results got everything crossed for you both big hugs xx