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The wait for test results is Hell on earth

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My lovely mum who is in her 50s recently found a lump in her breast and changes to her nipple. She did the right thing and went to her GP who then referred her for a mammogram, etc. She was there on Monday with her partner and essentially, the consultant doesn't like the look of what is going on in her breast and in her lymph nodes. We're now playing the waiting game for the biopsy results to come back. It is pure torture. I think I am doing worse than her as I'm in a constant state of anxiety and bouts of tears. She's not a grandma yet. I'm so scared.

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    Hello there,

    I thought I'd answer your post and hopefully offer some support. There are lots of people on here who will come along and chat to you but I'm sure all will agree that waiting for results is hell on earth as you've described it. It's horrible, but I can tell you that this is by far the worst you'll feel. Once you know you will deal with it, whatever it is. With regards to your mum, she will receive the absolute best care and there is so much treatment available for breast cancer these days, it's likely she will be treated and be fine. Your mum isn't going anywhere, hold that thought. You'll get through this x

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    Hi

    I'm really sorry to hear about your Mum, I had a similar appointment myself on Monday and am now waiting for the biopsy results and it's absolutely horrible. I've been reading a number of posts on here and they all seem to agree that the waiting is the worst part. But the advice seems to be to stay busy, wait for the facts and don't be too hard on yourself. I am sat watching a Christmas film because it's making me feel better and that's just fine My job have signed me off for 2 weeks because my head is simply not in the right place, but I can continue to work from home at my discretion if it makes me feel better! I don't really have any other advice just that I have everything crossed for your family and I'm feeling the same anxiety! I wish I could go to sleep and wake up in 10 days' time!! 
     

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    Hi Boo.

    As others have said really. Waiting is awful. I am in waiting limbo too and honestly I'm wishing the week away, which I am cursing myself for because you shouldn't ever wish time away, but it's hard!

    I don't have any great advice except to say stay away from dark places on the Internet. Everyone's situation is different, so one person's story won't match your mum's. Even if it's what they suspect treatments are great now and they will have a plan. Your mum has you and so she's already going to do great because she has love and support

    Deep breaths and try and keep busy  x

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    Hi Boo93

    I'm sorry to hear about your mum and that you are worried. It's really normal to be worried. I pray all will turn out well. 

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    I'm waiting for results too. The consultant thought i had a cyst from the physical examination. The ultrasound showed very different characteristics though - jagged edges, cloudiness- so i have been terrified ever since. I should have got my results last weds (10 days later) but i have had to come abroad for my brother's wedding. I now get the results this Friday - 3 weeks after the biopsy. It's been a long wait x

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    Sorry to hear about your mum

    waiting is hell on earth!

    waiting for my biopsy results where bad enough but then waiting 3 weeks for the results from my surgery was absolutely agonising

    Keep busy, plan a few nice trips/ treats etc for you & your mum to do together ( if possible) keep off Google!! 
    I spent hours looking up everything and anything to do with BC and it turns you into a nervous wreck .

    whatever the outcome you obviously have a lovely relationship with your mum 

    she will get the best care im sure ️

    Sending love x

     

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    We have a great relationship now (not always the case when I was a moody teenager!). She is my rock and my bestfriend so I am trying my best to stay strong for her. 

     

    Thanks for your lovely message :happy:

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