Hello Qwest

I'm sorry to hear that you're currently waiting for biopsy results. We know that this period of uncertainty can be difficult for many people. Factor in all the other things that you've mentioned and it's understandably a difficult time for you all right now. 

Hopefully your appointment next week will bring some positive news for you all but in the meantime, I'd encourage you to give our team of nurses a call. I'm sure they will be happy to offer any advice, information, and support that they can ahead of your appointment. If you'd like to talk with them they're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040. 

I'm sure that some of our members who have been through similar experiences will post to share their advice and support with you soon. 

Do keep in touch Qwest and let us know how you get on. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Hi Jenn,

Thanks for your reply, it did help to know someone was there.

Unfortunately it is breast cancer, on the positive side it is early stage (however this could change) and grade 2. I had already convincinced myself that it was cancer which made receiving the information from my consultant easier to stomach than if I had gone in thinking it was a cyst. I had my mum with me in the end and she was a bag of nerves, I am not sure that really helped me as it just made me nervous in the waiting room. She clearly went into shock at the news and just froze. In a way it was good that she was there as the macmillan nurse was able to talk to her whilst I was having a mammogram.

I am 32 and the tissue is too dense so I am off for an MRI on monday. I can't say I am looking forward to the next few months but I am grateful that we have a health service. I am really hoping that it hasn't spread as my armpit is starting to hurt and I am absolutely kicking myself for not calling up my GP immediately... I found it just before my best friends wedding so I put off calling as I was running the bar and maid of honour so I just put it to the back of my mind... I wish I hadn't now. I feel angry that it took the doctors two weeks to see me when I called for an appointment, if I had realised that I could have had a private ultrasound I would have done it in a heartbeat. My partners father also passed away not long after, he was a flight away so that postponed my results by another week. I am scared that this month of extra waiting could have been the difference between chemo or no chemo. I really really do not want to feel that ill. I know people go through it all the time but the long term implications are huge and I don't live somewhere where I can get some rest which is free from the risk of illness as I live above a pub.

My partner is still away, trying to close up his Dads accounts. All we do is argue, mostly because of the pub. I am so fed up and I have no idea how I am going to manage when treatment starts. We are having a big meeting when he returns with the staff so that they get the message about closing times and respecting our sleep/privacy. The flat has only one entrance which is throught the pub, I am not sure how I will cope with this as I am going to have bad days and I don't want to have to see people, smile and say hi. 

I have told a few friends but I don't think they know how to cope with the news, I have a feeling that I am going feel very alone in the coming weeks/months. I am looking into some form of counselling for me and my partner as I know that he isn't going to be emotionally available and I need his support now more than ever.

Best wishes,

Kelly