Feel let down by my sisters, is this normal?

I was red flagged for breast pain and I could feel a mass, the wait for the appointment was horrendous... I googled everything I could and even though I thought it could be alright I still worried 'what if '. I'm really close to my sisters but couldn't tell them as didn't want to worry them or them suffocate me so only told my husband about it... fast forward last week got all clear and then got round to telling my sisters which I was quite nervous about for some reason, they asked a few questions about tests and that but none of them asked how I was and this just seems to have floored me and I don't know why, I can only presume with all the emotions I was feeling for a few weeks my head is still over the place... just wondered if anyone else has felt like this

  • To be fair, your sisters only heard about it after you got the all-clear, so I guess they felt everything was fine. They may also have gotten a shock hearing about it and not really known what to say.

    I think what you felt is normal though. I didn't have exactly that but my brother didn't exactly deal the best with some medical investigations I had last summer - he got annoyed with me for being worried about the results - and I was angrier with him than I would normally be and some of it was because of the way he kept justifying his attitude but some of it was that I was angry with the situation and how I got some really good news but couldn't enjoy it because it came the day after I was told I should get tested for cancer. I think everything is that bit more upsetting when you are going through something stressful.

  • Yes, I have felt like this.  I have 2 sisters older than me, and while I wouldn't exactly say that we are close,  I admit that on the 2 occasion I have tested positive for breast cancer, neither of them seemed overly concerned.  It isn't that I wanted them to collapse in to floods of tears and to make a big fuss over me, not at all, but I just got the feeling that they weren't too bothered, and I admit, it hurt me.  In fact, one of my cousins was more upset about my 2 bouts of cancer than they were.  In fairness to your sisters, perhaps they feel that because you  got the all clear, that this is the end of the matter, and there is nothing more to talk about on the subject.  Or maybe they are a little bit hurt that you didn't confide in them?  Do you think this is possible?   I am now at stage 4 cancer, and I haven't told either of my sisters how advanced my illness now is.  I have only told my husband.  I think that when we are stressed and going through a crisis, everything gets blown out of proportion.  What you are feeling at the moment is normal.