Hard lump in my breast

Okay Hi I'm 31 and I found a lump on Christmas Eve I didn't get it checked till after Christmas incase I had to go for further tests and I didn't think I'd be strong enough over Xmas in front of my children aged 9 and 11, im a single parent too so it's something i struggle to talk to anyone about, any way I got it checked nearly 3 weeks ago and my appointment is tomorrow. But ever since my last appointment my head is all over but I wondered if anyone else felt like they knew it was cancer, i just feel like i know it is and I can't take any comfort from anyone who says don't worry it will be fine, when no one knows that? I'm just so worried 

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  • Morinng [@Kimberlyyyyy123]‍ 

    We all get worried about something in our lives, and it is natural for people to give their platitudes, which of course are all well meaning, but if they have not been through it themselves it just feels so empty. You know that they go home and shut their doors and forget what you are going through as they have their own things going on.

    No one does know what your feeling or what the result is going to be, and this is going to be at the foremost of your brain, especially as a single parent to young children, as all of a sudden the panic of how long will you have, what will happen to them, and nothing anyone says is going to ease your fear or worry right now, this time of wating is really the worse part of it all. I assume your appointment is on Monday, unless they really are working hard and seeing people on a Sunday?

    I wish I could say something to help you, but I can't, the only thing I can say is that now I am 47, my daughter is 24 and she grew up as me being the only parent, I found that when I was ill with anything the worry I had was horrendous, I feared everything (and I was ill a lot....) When they found a tumor in my neck (it was a dentist xray tht picked it up) I was so worried, and of course they use the word tumor and of course your brain goes straight to cancer, I still have that tumor in my neck,(over 15 years later) it swells up more if I am ill with a virus and I have several lymph nodes that will always be swollen around it, It was fully investigated at the hospital and deemed to be non-cancerous and one doctor was going to remove it, but he changed his mind because of the complications in my health. 

    So although I was actually diagnosed with Breast Cancer in 2020, I wanted to focus on the fact, that our brains naturally think the worse, we fear what we don't know and look for answers when we know the answers just are not there to be had yet. (my Cancer was an incidental finding, so I didn't have the same worry leading upto my first appointment, my worry waiting, was waiting on the biopsy results) It feels like an eternity, I did have that inkling it was going to be cancer and thought this is going to be DCIS so I kind of put myself in that mindset of finding out what I could etc, so when I got the phonecall to come in and speak to them, I knew. But it actually turned out to be Invasive, and then in surgery they picked up the DCIS and Invasive.

    But I had been in 2 years previous to that, so they could pop a cyst for me and at that time they found a lump that they did a biopsy on and that time it turned out to be a fibroadanoma, so there are other things that happen in the breast that it could be other than cancer, but that won't settle your mind until they give you the answers from all the tests they do, but I can tell you the team are friendly and caring and don't rush you through the appointment, you can expect to be there a good couple of hours. 

    If they are able to give answers on the day they will. Every scan is checked at the time it is done so your not  waiting days for the report to return to your doctor.. Good Luck for your appointment and please let us know how you get on.. And if you need to talk feel free to message me.

  • Thank you so much for you're reply, I'm so sorry to hear of your Tumors. Must of been a big shock for you to find out that way, my appointment is on a Sunday yes at 9:45 so it's an early appointment too so it's not much of a wait for me in the morning, I normally train a lot and I do boxing to help with my mental health for my anxiety but this week Iv not been it's just not been on my list of priorities even though I know it helps, it's like now I know it's there I can't rest until I know for sure, it's been a long wait but it's only one more sleep till I find out, 

    really appreciate your reply, I will update tomorrow when Iv been for my appointment 

  • Hi Kimberly,

    Wow, I really didn't expect you to say it was Sunday, but good that it is early, as you won't need to go too long without putting on deodarant...... And wear a nice loose top that you can take on and off easily, you suddenly get to a stage where you can just take it off and not care that you have all these women handling them ( which really is a weird feeling!!) 

    I'll look out for your update tomorrow... Good Luck.

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  • Hi Kimberly,

    Wow, I really didn't expect you to say it was Sunday, but good that it is early, as you won't need to go too long without putting on deodarant...... And wear a nice loose top that you can take on and off easily, you suddenly get to a stage where you can just take it off and not care that you have all these women handling them ( which really is a weird feeling!!) 

    I'll look out for your update tomorrow... Good Luck.

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