Hi Just read your post and needed to reply. 
 

I am So sorry that you are going through this, It must be so hard for you especially being pregnant and having a little one. I am 38 and have two sons so I know how you feel.

you have come away with lots of positives, it's a small lump and your nodes look clear! This is the absolute worse you will feel, once you know what your dealing with you will feel better, you will go too the Dark as I did.

let's hope it is nothing and if isn't as we hope they will have a plan for you when you have your appointment. 
 

The treatment is amazing! You will see your baby's grow up i promise! 
 

love Sarah 

Thanks so much Sarah.

it's reassuring to know if it's bad news that they will have already formulated a plan. 

I hope your treatment is going well and I'm sorry you have had to go through this at 38 with two sons.

If anything positive comes out of a diagnosis, it's not to take life for granted. I have already found myself making different decisions. 

Since the last appointment,  when my son wakes up early in the morning (like 5am) I just want to lie next to him and give him cuddles, rather than ask my husband to put him back to bed.

Thank you for taking the time to reply and wishing you all the best.

xx

Yes your so right, live life to the full!

 Thankyou my first treatment was okay. 
 

i hope it's good news when you get your results. The one big peice of advice is to make a couple of Friends on here at the same timeline as you! I made two friends we all had the same news at the same time and we now have a wattsapp group! They have been my Rocks as they know exactly how i feel. 
 

I am hoping you won't need to use this advice as a it could be a number of things so let's hope it's good news. 
 

love Sarah 

Thank you, I will keep a look out for people in the same situation as me.

It's great you have support from people who know how it feels.

x

I was just checking in to see how you are doing as I read your post the other evening but didn't have time to reply as we were having dinner with friends

When I had my biopsies taken on 22 Nov I wasn't given any indication as to what it could be although I knew in my gut it was cancer. I also had a look at the ultrasound and then compared then to google images which confirmed my gut feeling.  My results came back a week later and I had an appt booked for the week after that - 8 Dec where they told me that cancer was found in 2 out of the 3 lumps in my breast and in the one lump in my lymph node. I'm now impatiently waiting for my next appt. 

I'm 44 with 4 children (youngest being 4 in January) with no prior history. 

The nurse who was with me at the time of my results gave me the advice of try not to worry about it and just cross the bridge when you come to it and deal with it then. You've got 3 very good reasons to cross the bridge when the appt comes. Your husband, your 2 year old and the impending arrival of your beautiful baby. Try and focus your energy on them and not on the unknown. I know it's easily said than done. I have days when I don't think about it and what's to come and they are good days. 

We are here if you need us xx

I am very sorry you have received that diagnosis and wish you all the best in treatment.

I am very similar to you in that I looked at the ultrasound and then compared the images online, so I am going to prepare for the worst. My gut also seems to be saying the same thing to me.
 

it's a rollercoaster of emotions even in just the waiting, being upset, feeling so fragile and human, being worried about missing out, getting angry and then starting to accept that I might as well enjoy the day as I can't control anything now.

How was the appointment when they told you? Did they set up a treatment plan there and then?

Wishing you all the best for your next appointment x

That's what hubby said to me about not being able to control it and to just deal with it as and when each bit happens. 

The appt was weirdly ok because I knew what was going to be I just didn't know specifics. I had to go on my own as hubby was working that day and we hadn't told anyone else. I have stage 3 invasive ductal cancer in my left breast and 1 lymph node with is HER+ and ER-.

At that appt they advised that I'll be having surgery first (just waiting on my mri results which are looking at both the lumps in my breast and whether they are linked or not) before a decision is made between lumpectomy or a mastectomy with a full axillary clearance of the lymph nodes. Then I'll need having chemo because of my age followed by radiotherapy and Tamoxifen for at least 5 years. Which as a whole package is overwhelming but hopefully by just dealing with each bit will be more manageable. 

Currently I'm less emotional now because I know for definite although I can imagine with pregnancy hormones running rampant that won't be case for you. 

Keep us updated re baby and appt. Xx

Hi

Appointment has been brought forward by 8 days which is good, but it is now in the oncology outpatients department in a different building to where my first appointment was going to be. I guess this doesn't bode well either.

Hoping to avoid covid until then but a lot more people I know are getting it. If I have to self-isolate I would rather a virtual appointment rather than putting it off. I wonder if this is something they can do. 
 

My emotions are all over the place at the moment. Still find myself tearing up when I cuddle my 2 year old. Really worried about inflammatory breast cancer because my lump aches before I had the biopsy but is worse now.

x

Oh sweetheart. Massive hugs. What date is your appt? I can honestly say I was far more emotional before they confirmed to me what I suspected than one I knew for definite. 

My breast ached more after the biopsy and yours probably isn't helped by those pregnancy hormones especially with baby's arrival imminent and even now about 6 weeks after my biopsy I still get twinges. 

I'm sure if you did get covid they could do a work round although to be honest If it is cancerous then they probably won't start any treatment until after your baby is here. 

Keep giving your 2 year old cuddles. Here when you need me/us xx

Hi

I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma today, grade 3 but they haven't given a stage yet as asked me to have a mammogram first to make sure it hasn't spread.

I'm 38 weeks now. Looks like they want baby to be born next week so can get me into surgery for a lumpectomy soon after birth.

Really sad I won't be able to breast feed, as I breast fed my first child for 2 years (so much for breastfeeding reducing the risk of cancer).

They have suggested radiotherapy and probably chemo but will wait and see.

I can't believe it's happening to me! I seem to be the only pregnant woman with cancer they are caring for at the moment, but would love to reach out to others for support. 

I think it's really shocked my husband now we have the diagnosis, but I did prepare myself for the worst and made sure to ask a page full of questions. 

The consultant has said she will phone me by tomorrow with mammogram results. I have urged them to just phone me with any results because (you were right) the waiting was the worst part.

The hospital is excellent and the team is on it already. Hope I don't sink into post-natal depression and get to bond with baby.  Just want the surgery ASAP to get it out.

Thanks for the support,

x

Oh my darling, I've been thinking about you over the past week. Gutted it confirmed what you suspected. I'm not pregnant but I'll happily be a support buddy as mine is grade 3 too. 

My MRI revealed my lumps were part something larger (10cm) so I'm having my mastectomy tomorrow. 

I know it's scary how quickly things move but it's for the best and you'll have your beautiful baby next week and you'll have plenty of time to bond as you will need to rest lots so plenty of time to have those precious new born snuggles. 

Could you possibly express some milk from the good side so baby gets a little bit of the good stuff at birth?

Lots of love. Always here

I breastfed 4 babies...

I breastfed 4 babies...